Ladies are often plagued with the biological tendency to overemote when it comes to sex. While each generation inches closer and closer to a more masculine and stoic take on screwing, it didn't shock us at all to read that women, emotional intelligence and the ability to orgasm are all very directly related.
Researchers at King's College London rounded up 2, 000 twins, gave them a series of EQ tests and then analyzed how often they orgasm during sex and masturbation. The ones who rocked the EQ scores are equally successful in the bedroom. Sensitivity does a lady good; even if she's just alone with her brand-new rubber duckie vibrator.
"Emotional intelligence seems to have a direct impact on women's sexual functioning by influencing her ability to communicate her sexual expectations and desires to her partner," lead author Andrea Burri said.
But what does barking orders under the covers have to do with emotional intelligence? Wouldn't this make assertive people the most adept at getting what they want in bed? Is being assertive just another facet of emotional intelligence?
Not exactly. With a high EQ, relationship problems (or emotional problems in general) are more likely to be tackled directly instead of brushed under the carpet and bottled up for future No Sex ammunition. Ladies high in EQ (we guess man and his desire for orgasms isn't colored by all this silliness) are less likely to suffer the anti-sex lows of someone a bit more powerless to their moods. A Steady Eddie, if you will.
"It's not just about technique and the environment being right," said Paula Hall, a sexual psychotherapist for Relate. "If you are aware of your own emotions and can identify the issues and communicate them, you are more likely to be able to resolve the difficulty."