In skipping ahead, or not giving real thought to what is being said, or in just making a snap judgement, you could be ending something that could have been very fixable and gone on to being very healthy and happy. On the other hand, you could be putting people back together that really should seperate. I know this kind of takes the fun out of annonymity, but this isn't a site that is about nothing more than idealogical debates...these are real lives and they are going through real issues like you did/are/will.
Still, these are just my observations. If you were to try and come up with some guidelines for being a good YT user what would your suggestions be?