Now i may be young and may not know everything about love, but i know something. My parents were ont he verge of getting divorced and i thought my life was over.There was so much drama that i felt like runing away, but i told myself not to run from my problems but anyway my father was being accused of cheating on my mother. I dont know if it was true til this day but who knows. I've seen my parents at their worst of days and now they've come a long way.Cheating can help and cheating can harm but the deciding factor is up to you. You will not only be testing the other but you will be testing yourself as well.

Well im sorry but I would have to disagree with an affair being a good thing in any sense. I have had affairs while married and learned that once you cheat the trust is gone. Yes there are all kinds of "reasons" to which we cheat on our spouse but to cross that line is something that is very regretful afterwards. I feel that if you do cheat then sure your spouse will forgive you and in turn we forgive ourselves, but is there going to be trust in the relationship anymore?? That is the question. How can you trust someone that when things were going wrong in the marriage went and laid with another? Or just because you were sick or took medicine that affected your sex life your significant other laid with someone else. See I think it destroys marriages and breaks up alot of families. If you are with the one that you should be with come hell or high water you will stay faithful. I found that and that is how come i can say all this I lived it.

I think Bluesmomma2 is not too far off the mark. There are some redeeming qualities to a encounter outside of a marriage. I have known sever people as I'm sure others have also who have troubled marriages. I believe that there may be times when one partner is unable to provide for some of the needs of the other partner. The reasons are various from medical to emotional. Either person can only be patient for so long when the desire to have their needs met is over-whelming. At this time many relationships fail and can be come bitter and painful. Even emotionally strong people can sucome to this. A affair, lets call it what it is, out-side of the marriage can indeed provide for a temporary relief of the faild needs. This should not be seen as a loss of all trust because each partner relies on the other for those needs and when they aren't met that can also be considered a lost in trust. And the needs still have to be met. So, yes it can be good for a marriage for an affair to take place. It can help in providing each partner with an opportunity to realize what they were missing and to re-focas their effort to renew the parts of their relationship they were missing. In this way it can make their relationship grow stronger and last longer. I think if you talk to some people that have had a long marraige you will find many have had affairs but were able to recover from the and it made their marriage strong enough to last a very long time.

Later,
Bob