MARRIED GAY GUY: The hitched homosexual on the other hand is actually married to an anti-cuddler. So, naturally, he thinks it's much ado about nothing. "My hubby isn’t so lovey-dovey. He gets hot very quickly and basically endures it for my sake for as long as he can, which usually amounts to about 45 seconds. It used to bother me, but I’ve realized it’s just a quirk of his and really has no bearing on how he feels about me. So I wouldn’t read too much into it if your man isn’t a cuddle bug or or happy hand holder." He encourages her to ask the guy about his firm stance against it, but to take comfort in the fact that this "doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you."
SINGLE STRAIGHT GUY: Agrees with married dude. Must be something in the lady-loving waters. "This is more often the conscious or unconscious manifestation of him just not being that into you. So you have to look for other signs. Give it some time and try hard not to confuse love with lust. New relationships are often mostly lust disguised as love." Lust/love, murky gray waters aside, Single Straight encourages the asker to look for other signs. "If he treats you fantastically all the time and simply isn’t holding your hand or kissing you in public, it may be genuine shyness. But if the public displays of affection are just one more thing in the list of affectionate things he isn’t doing, then it may be time to look elsewhere…"