I resent gender solidarity for its own sake. I feel no more responsibility towards women than I do towards men, and I’m not going to change my behavior just because high school taught me “chicks before dicks” and “bros before hos.” Refusing to sleep with H because I’m supposed to be on Bridesmaid’s side, just because we both have vaginas, is dishonest for me. (Refusing to sleep with H because he’s a selfish prick—that’s a bit more true.) If Bridesmaid knew what was going on, and asked me to stop, that would be a different matter entirely, but I can’t change H, I can’t control what information Bridesmaid receives, and I can’t make their relationship better or worse from where I’m standing. I can only act on my own feelings and my own information, and the same should be true for Emily Rozen.
No one knows what goes on inside a relationship but the two people in it—and even then, I think, that would be lucky.
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