Poll: Dating By Texting: Are You A Fan?
Does the man you're dating text you instead of call you?
Discussion
Texting removes all the social nuance from a conversation. It is a very impersonal means of communicating that our generation reduced itself to accepting. As a guy I consider it cowardly! You can show her some respect and give her a call (AND she can do the same by picking up). People's voice and the vibe you get from them are important to moving forward constructively. Do you think this trend in not picking up phone calls on the woman's side has perhaps forced guys to take this route
I give texting 77 thumbs down!!
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I went out with a guy who told me he hated the sound of his own voice and so only wanted to text when we needed to make plans. I soon found out it wasn't only his voice he loathed about himself, poor guy, he was way too insecure.
Nothing wrong with the occasional text, or flirtatious texts during the day. But if you're too wimpy, lazy or just plain uninterested to talk on the phone, well, maybe it's time to grow up and face yourself, friend.
IF YOUR TO LAZY OR YOUR HIDING BEHIND THE TEXT MESSAGING BECAUSE OF YOUR INSECURITIES YOU ARE GOING TO END UP IN TROUBLE ESPECIALLY WITH ME. IF YOUR TO LAZY TO PRESS THE BUTTON TO TALK THAN WE ARE GOING NOWHERE FAST. AND I AM NOT GOING TO WASTE MY TIME ON IT. I WILL NOT CALL YOU AT WORK, OR ANY WHERE ELSE THAT MAY BE OF IMPORTANCE TO YOU AT THE MOMENT AND I EXPECT THE SAME CONSIDERATION FROM YOU. IF I AM IN THE MIDDLE OF SOMETHING PERSON WISE I WILL TURN THE PHONE OFF AND WHEN I TURN IT BACK ON THE FIRST THING THAT I WILL DO IS CHECK FOR MESSAGES FROM YOU. ONE THING I AGREE ON 100% IS THE IMPERSONALITY OF THE TEXT MESSAGES.
I want to hear my guy's voice. Texting is more convenient but doesn't convey emotion. Simple texts like "I love you" "I miss you" or "Have fun" or making dates (sometimes) is alright but if all your communication comes from texting then there's a problem. Put it like this: texting for the most part is okay but a guy who takes the time and cares enough to call wins extra points.
Texting can be complicated when it comes to emotions. You can't really express your emotions through a text and happy faces are just silly. especially when you are really interested in someone you want to hear their emotions through their voice. Unless you are stright to the point with it you can receive a comment from someone like.. Yeah I liked it.. but can you really tell? Depending on the tone you use this could sound sarcastic.
I would rather text...it keeps from making the conversation wierd especially if you just started dating. Phone calls are just an inconvience, I'm at work or busy and you want to call and have long conversations which will most likely end up with me being irratated because you do not want to get off the phone and if I am on the phone with you any longer I will probably hang up. Yea so if he does not mind I don't mind and everyone is happy.
The guy I'm seeing is in a touring band (yeah, I know, I've gotta beat the green-eyed monster down with a stick sometimes, but it's usually OK) and I think text is really underrated.
Historically, love letters were the thing. Then the telephone came and people thought it would never replace the letter. But it pretty much has - when was the last time you got a real, honest to god letter from an absent lover? (I know it's still done, but it's rare.)
Texting can be full of passion and emotion if done thoughtfully. It's hard to talk to him since he's in and out of service while he drives all over and when he's in one place it's very, very loud. But the sexy and romantic (and even pedantic) notes wee send each other aren't just icing - they actually make it better.
They key is to do it well and be creative - you've got around 150 characters to express yourself in, and a surprising amount of feeling can be crammed in if you're up to the challenge and have either a smart phone or some patience with the tiny keys (I'd recommend the smart phone, but my guy has a normap phone and does just fine).
The text/dating problem doesn't arise from the medium, it arises from non-creative use of it.
I'm not one for talking on the phone texting is great. You may just want say sorry i missed you yesturday. You may just want to send a reminder.
Yeah it's not the same as conversing .........( its virtual dating.)
I want to hear my guys voice. Texting takes the fun out of getting personal with someone on a communicational level. Its almost like a out for those of us who struggle with getting to know someone or just communication all together with another human being. Its a big distraction and although it can be cute and sweet to receive a text from someone we care about, it just bogus for someone whether a guy or female in a relationship to only text their partner. It's like calling doesn't matter anymore. Anyone can text someone something special but we've got to learn that we're not robots. We need that human interaction.
Texting has ruined dating all together... while I absolutely love that I can zip off a cute message at any time and text flirt non-stop... Texting has given guys the out. They don't need to call anymore and that can get impersonal.