Poll: Does Fighting Lead To Better Sex?
Not all make-up sex is good sex.
Discussion
She's a cup thrower, After a fight who the heck wants to have relations after the tassmanian devil just el-cabonged you with coffee cups??? I'm not saying I'am perfect, What man is? BUT?! I have learned to stop and ask directions, And I refuse to argue! I bust my hump from 4 a.m. until 11 p.m. 7 days a week. I cook,clean,do laundry,windows, I do it all....And in spare time I schlep the girlfriend...... She does'nt work! She does'nt have to pay bill's! And yet I keep saying she'll change....And you ding dongs come up with is sex better after you fight???!!!! OH PLEASE! You come jump in my shoe's I would love to drop her in your lap and find a girl who loves me for my kind gentle nature....Not to use me for money and classic cars.....
On occasion my wife has mentioned she could feel residual anger in my thrust. I couldnt tell from her tone whether she liked it or not but she sure didnt sound disappointed.
If our fight is about intimacy or relationship boundaries it helps to reconnect when it's over with sex, but if the fight is more about mundane sorts of things then we may have sex but it isn't about reconnection it's just cause we want to have sex.
I'm a proponent for healthy fights (as many turn their heads sideways and look quizically at their screens), and make-up sex can be great, but I'm on board with Watersisland...if that is the only reason you're fighting then its going to cause more problems in the future.
Fighting, to a certain degree, is healthy in a relationship, so long as you both learn to either resolve the issue or you both understand that the fight was actually meaningless and a rare means of blowing off steam (those are the fights that end with a lot of laughing). If the relationship is nothing but fighting with nothing being resolved then no outcome from it will be good for the relationship.
Interesting side note; A friend of mine once told me about a native american gal he dated back in Arizona. According to him they use to have some really good fights and one day after fighting on the drive to her Grandma's place, Grandma could tell they were fighting and pulled her aside to talk with her. Wasn't too long a talk, but she walked back to my friend with most of the fight knocked out of her, but replaced with a new form of ire. My friend asked her what Grandma had said, which in a nutshell was this. In their tribe it is customary that when a married couple fights that the wife initiates sex with her husband to begin re-unifying them as a couple. In cases where the partners are not married but have been together for some time the woman is supposed to perform orally on the guy. Crazy, huh?
one thing always leads to another because fighting can sometimes turn on couples just like a kiss on the lips usually leads to sex. Fighting can turn into ruff ruff ruff sex
well honestly i love make up sex after a fight becsue i usually get horny whi9le im arguing, i dont nw why arguing makes me hot but it does,and that way i coud just take my "anger " out !!! But if its some abusive type ish, thats not make up sex.. thats on antoher level...
Gee mama, we seem to be going after the same issues tonight. Actually, I'm clicking from the Community page where the latest posts are listed, and the ones you have addressed seem to be of the same ones that interest to me. Great minds think alike?
Make-up sex is often VERY HOT and PASSIONATE sex and is always great. Not to preclude that normal deep caring sex is great also. Hey, even quickies are often great sex.
The problem with Make-up sex is I have known some couples to think that it is the BEST SEX and even initiate differences in anticipation of the make-up sex. I have heard as much actually said-by males as well as females. Usually in the context of "Well we're kind of fighting right now-tomorrow we'll have all out warefare, but by the weekend- WE'll have GREAT make-up sex. It always goes that way".
While make-up sex is often very fulfilling, to actually cause problems in anticipation of it is very dysfunctional. I have not known couples that continually approach matters that way to have lasting relationships.
But if ya do have fights or strong disagrements(who doesn't?), it can be a great way to healing your differences!
Ha ha, --either enter 'have' in second sentence or better yet ---eliminate 'of' and 'to'. Sometimes I edit or rewrite a statement and screw it up even worse without proofreading. I SHOULD proofread BEFORE clicking. Time to go to bed.
