Are You Too Single To Start Dating Again?
If your personal hygiene has suffered as a result of your status, the answer is yes.
I've been single for a really, really long time. Like, super long. Super duper long. I'll put it to you plainly: the last time I had a BF, Jordin Sparks was still competing on American Idol.
Yeah.
Not that I mind being single - I have actually gotten quite used to it - I just worry that spending so much time depending on myself and myself only has sorta made me….too single.
I don't remember what it's like to be in a relationship anymore; to answer to someone else, to plan around someone else, to make decisions with someone else. I sleep in the middle of my bed - and I hog all the pillows. I spend my evenings with takeout food and TLC reality shows that no guy would ever watch. I sometimes go days without washing my hair and months without getting a wax. I devote any and all time to hanging out with my friends. I take out my own garbage and buy my own drinks.
I change my own flat tires.
I enjoy being a truly independent woman, but I am starting to wonder if all that "I can do it"-ness is preventing me from finding someone. If my contentedness is preventing me from actually getting out there and bringin' home a boy. Well, a boyfriend. I have gotten quite good at just bringing home a boy.
A friend recently told me (drunk at 3 a.m., mind you) that the key to getting a guy is playing the damsel in distress. Not in all aspects of your life, but in some. Her weapon is a lack of car; she always needs the guy to drive, so he feels good taking care of her. And guys keep lining up to give this girl a ride (pun not intended)...
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Discussion
I pretty had the same problem I was didn' t date for 3 years because of work and school I was dumbed out when I first started dating again the emtions running threw me came back again I remembered what it felt like to have interest in somebody think about someone when you go to sleep dont you miss those late night phone conversation you go to sleep good sort of like therapy knowing that somebody like you besides beening alone kills you need somebody you lost your women ways when was the last time you got dressed got tooking out dont you miss it you gotta get out there because I really enjoy dating more than ever my first relationship i got hurt because I let emtions get involve you missing out on the game you need the game because its going to benefit you what if you really need help are you going to be paying for everything the rest of your life relationships or even a male friend someone your dating comes with benefits and jordin sparks won american idol like 3 or 4 years ago.
I think maybe that was a misunderstanding. I date, very much so. Just not really I guess into the whole idea that woman should play helpless to make a man want her. Woman should be strong and do for themselves. You don't have to wait or pray that a man will come along and do for you. You need to roll up your sleeves and get in there. I do agree though I enjoy the game.
