7 Spiritual Principles Of Divorce
How to learn to love again and let yourself heal after a divorce.
Spirituality is simply the willingness to be open to the concept that there are forces at work in this world that are beyond our comprehension. Some people refer to those forces as Nature, The Universe, or G-d. It doesn't matter what you call it, as long as you know it isn't you, because it's when you think that you are running your own life, and that it's up to you to make everything work out perfectly, you are setting yourself up for stress-related illness and Depression.
As it pertains to divorce, which is one of the most stressful things a person can experience, there are certain Spiritual principles that are important to grasp:
1. People are put in your path for a reason. You never meet anyone by accident.
2. You never made a mistake in your life. It was all a learning experience, even if the lesson was just that you could learn what you do NOT want in your life.
3. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a certain amount of time, until you both learn what you need to learn.
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This may sound all new-agey and mystic, like its time to bust out the incense burners and crystals, but there is real truth in these philosophies. Its not a coping mechanism either. These ideas enable a person to look at themselves objectively and learn more about who they are, who they're becoming, and re-define who they want to be or strengthen that resolve. Its about how you choose to percieve your reality. Yes, you can define that last relationship as being bad...but where do you go from there? Did you really look at why it turned out that way, what your part in it was, what the other person's part in it was? Did you see something that may be tapping into a pattern (why am I just attracted to the a$$holes? etc,) ? Can you look back at your relationships and see how they have affected you, how they have caused growth in some way, and can you see how your decisions, specifically how you chose to view everything before, during, and after, affected that relationship and the consequent growth afterwards? I've had bad relationships. I know why they were bad. I can see what I did and what they did. I can understand where those decisions came from for each of us, or, at the least, why I made those decisions. Its not an easy choice to make, because we really have to hold ourselves accountable for these actions, but it is supremely enriching.
You're absulutely right, First Wives World. And you, too, Qverb, I like what you said> You really evolved!
