I'm Not Ready: Non-Commitment & You

 “I’m not ready” doesn’t always mean, “I’m not ready to stop chasing tail and playing beer pong with my buddies.”  Often it means, “this table has not yet been set for two.”

And sometimes it means bigger questions are being asked.  Am I ready to drop my defenses and let this other person see me warts and all?  To feel so profoundly concerned about someone else’s well-being and allow this person’s presence to become necessary to my happiness?  To surrender to love and risk losing it?  

While Adam considers this ultimatum, I hope his girlfriend sees how his mulling it over demonstrates the depth of his feelings.  I hope she understands she’s not only asking for a wedding ceremony, she’s asking for a lifetime.  And mostly, I hope she doesn’t push.  Like jumping out of an airplane or eating seafood, if you act before the time is right, you’re only going to puke.