Real Life: What Made Me Cheat

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Real Life: What Made Me Cheat

My fiancé and I had been dating for three years and had been engaged for one year. The first year (2006) was really good overall, we dated, we romanced, we held hands and walked along the beaches, we had wild and crazy sex all the time, and were head over heels in love. The second year (2007) became difficult. I was intending to move to his hometown (which I did not want to do for family reasons) and I took a job there. I hated it. I hated where he lived (we were both living with our parents, I was 21, he was 26). I couldn't meet new friends; the whole environment just wasn't my element. So, I took a new job back at home which crushed the idea of me moving to his hometown. Well, he quit his job and was unemployed for three months which put a serious damper on our relationship, and when he went back to work it seemed like things were going to get better. However, let me pause for a moment and talk about a few other things...

He had truth issues and he was a bad liar. I could usually tell when he was lying and he hardly ever looked directly at me (or anyone) when he was talking. He always had ideas of how he could make money at this or he could make money at that or he could do this or that...and never followed through with anything. He wanted to have his space and I let him go and do as he pleased, but when I went to a bar with two female co-workers he had a fit. Christmas of 2006 he was mad that I put him on the back burner to do Christmas with my family first, and in 2007 he accused me of not wanting him around my family because I didn't "ask" him to come to my parent's house for Christmas. I told him when, where, and what time...I thought it was self-explanatory, but apparently not. These two Christmas seasons and the other occasions/holidays he and I spent together in '06 and '07... He was cheap. I'd spend more money than I should have getting him nice things, and one Christmas, one of my gifts was a set of Sharpie markers... I expected a little more.

In late 2007, he and I weren't talking very much. We'd go a week without speaking, texting, emailing, or any form of communication. I never suspected that he was cheating; I just didn't know what his problem was. We (my employer) had just gotten a new Police Officer and he and I struck up a conversation one day and then we began talking on the phone regularly or texting one another. I wasn't "interested" in him, I just wanted someone to talk to me, and he filled that void. Well, my boyfriend went through my phone and found text messages from the Officer and went off. He demanded that I tell the Officer to not call or text me anymore. I told the guy  that apparently I wasn't the only one checking my phone and for him to not send me messages anymore. I never had the chance to explain to the Officer what actually happened and to this day, if I see him or talk to him, he's brief and to the point. We don't see one another hardly any because of the detail he works, but I still would have liked the chance to explain what happened.