Porn can be fun when shared, and on an occasional basis, but I have had a long-running issue with S/O they d/l hide watch all the time on days off or while I'm not around. It's not a "shared" experience. I've tried discussing matter, and reply was always I am insecure get over it, or I'm a guy etc (absurdity) etc. I'm a normal functional non pixelated woman ready whenever my S/O wants me, but this issue causes me not to have desire. All I have asked is that S/O sees what he has appreciates and shows me emotions, speaks his desires and we progress from there, feels like a broken record after awhile. Getting tired of the daily routine... of work home sleep rinse repeat. I've tried to keep spontaneous, when I'm not so dragged out tired from work to make time for S/O thinking that if we do spend alone time he will not want/need porn, find what we have special, dwell on shared experiences, but this does not happen as soon as it's over he goes straight for computer while I fall asleep, feeling used, and unloved. Porn addiction can be damaging to a relationship especially when other party doesn't want to admit to said addiction. I am open to new experiences and hate for things to get dull. and routines can generally suck the life out of you. I've been told by friends leave find someone new but this is hard to do after investing so many years with one person. I love him yet I cant get past this. I feel he cant wait till I am away so he can be blissfully surrounded by imagery, instead of focusing on what's real,,which should be Us.
Porn is fine in moderation. Just like anything else. But if your bedroom action starts to take a back seat to his porn interest, you have a SERIOUS problem. Either something is wrong with your communication and sex between you isn't working as well as you may have thought, OR your man is headed down the road to addiction.
Okay... My BF has a porn drawer. I know he likes to watch it, I know what type he likes to watch. I used to bother me when I was younger, but being older now (a ripe 35) I have learned that porn is not (or should'nt be) a replacement for sex with his woman. It is fantasy. And sometimes men just really want to get off without all the time consuming stuff that goes into getting us all hot and bothered. I agree with that, sometimes I want to get off without having to bother with all that crap too. It's funny though, he get's all bent out of shape when I see a hot athelete or hot guitarist on TV. I just laugh and tell him that I have just as much of a chance with them as he does with Jenna Jaimeson. It is healthy to look, it is healthy to fantasize, and it is healthy to be able to kid eachother about it too.
I DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY MAN WATCHING PORN. SOME TIMES WE GET GOOD IDEAS FROM WATCHING PORN.
my advise to you ladies TV is not allowed in the bedroom because it can take up most of the bed room time. a guy can watch porn but not to the extent that he chooses it over u.
my advise to you ladies TV is not allowed in the bedroom because it can take up most of the bed room time. a guy can watch porn but not to the extent that he chooses it over u.
AllsBlaidd: you need to dump that guy. if he's choosing porn over you it's because he has an addiction.
cwillis002: some guys will watch porn from time to time even if their wives suck on their junk all day. it's oftentimes no reflection on their wives.
I think that porn is one of many issues in relationships today because most women are working women don't have time to please their men like they should. So therefore, porn comes to the rescue.
I think if women have a problem with their men watching porn, than they should focus on what it is exactly their men is getting out of porn and what they can do about it so their men want watch it again.
To be honest, I've even watched porn with my guy, and I can't figure out what he's getting out of it. I know he rarely touches me and watches all asian porn. He says I'm what he wants, but it makes NO SENSE at all. He says he only has time for porn at night before bed. So... what? No time for me?
