"The problem is that in long-term relationships men are far more likely to retain their sexual drive than their partners. The number one sexual problem plaguing women is low libido which means couples everywhere are struggling with a mismatch in desire. Women lie in bed worrying the hand will come creeping over. Men spend their lives groveling for sexual favors. The gap between them in bed becomes a chasm. This night-time drama is the source of great tension and unhappiness," Arndt wrote in an editorial for the Canberra Times.
Arndt went on to say in the same editorial, "The new rule was that sex must wait until women are well and truly in the mood. But that was where we went wrong. The assumption that women need to want sex to enjoy it has proved a really damaging sexual idea, one that has wrought havoc in relationships for the past 40 years."
Um, wait a second. Is she really suggesting that women (or men, for that matter) should just go through the motions and have sex with their partner when they don't want to? Interesting to note that the words "foreplay" and "appreciation" weren't mentioned. Arndt does suggest at the end of her editorial, though, another solution: talk about the problem. More communication with a partrner? Now that's advice with which we can agree. Or, there's always TiVo therapy.