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Online Dating Red Flags

How to spot a shady online dater's profile.

Worried that special online buddy isn't everything he says he is? Know these simple but important facts about online dating.

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Sandy Single
Can Relate - Posted June 18, 2009

I met a guy online, I live in the UK he lives in the US, but I visit the US regularly. Was great, we chatted on a regular basis, he suggested it would be good to meet up on a few occasions but something always came up, then, he decided he wasn't ready for a long distance relationship, even when I was visiting the US, couldn't understand why he suggested it and then always backed down. It would have been fun to meet up with the guy. Maybe Seaman can explain why it gets complicated for the guy even at his instigation! I don't chat with this guy any more, sadly, pressed the delete button on him recently.

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Posted April 23, 2009

I've met some really interesting and nice guys online, not a single bad case! which i can't say about some perverts/psychos i meet in real life.
To the things mentioned in the video i'd add a few things: Look through his(her) friends' list: if more than 90% of them are female, and if many of them look like they belong in Hooter's or a Sir MixaLot video, then it's HIGHLY likely that he's just looking for some quick sexy times....but then again, depends on what you're looking for...

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Posted April 21, 2009

this guys rocking is making me sick... D:

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Posted March 31, 2009

lol great and really witty video! awesome job!

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Posted March 29, 2009

lol, he's right! never underestimate the power of sexy vampires! unless it's edward cullen!

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Posted March 22, 2009

Anti-social?

Some women are very nice and open to people. Some women have wonderful connections to friends and family members, it is just that some men....just stare.

Some men just stare and never approach. It can be lonely when a shy attractive woman just wants a man to say "Hi".

Anti-social...not

Waiting for an approach...yes

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Posted March 22, 2009

Interesting. You commented that the person may be anti-social. Well, some women just get stared at and the men that are staring do not have the nerve to come up to them. Some women are very nice and open, they have strong connections to family members and friends, etc., it is just that men ....just stare.

It is difficult for an attractive shy woman to just have men stare.

Anti-social -- not.

Waiting for a man to approach...yes.

~~~ Southern woman in Boston.

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Posted March 20, 2009

I would never do online dating. You don't know these people. Only desperate losers do this.

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Posted March 17, 2009

Red flags for men:

BBW - Fat
"I'm selective" - Golddigger
"Religious not spiritual" - Slut in a past life, now won't put out.
Single mom - Looking for a mealticket for her and presents it's for the kids, knocked up by thug or loser and now looking for a sucker.
Feminist - decides everything in the relationship.
Bikini shots and gets mad at "creeps" that look at her - show off that thinks most men are beneath her.
"I love life/love to laugh" - can't think of anything individualistic to say.

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me74 Single
Posted March 14, 2009

Maybe men/women in the "real world" should start being more open minded and accepting of others, that way maybe people wouldn't have the do the online dating thing. I am disabled and that is the only way I'v dated so far, when men hear that i'm in a wheelchair they tend to not want to see me in person

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savannah Engaged We'll get there eventually.
Posted March 13, 2009

Hysterical! Thank God this part of my life is over.

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Seaman Single
Posted March 13, 2009

I love dating online. It's when they want to meet me in person that things get complicated.

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nubiancoco Single
Posted March 12, 2009

I MET SOME ONE ONLINE A FEW MONTHS AGO WHAT A NIGHT MARE! FIRST OF ALL HE IS BIPOLAR,
LIAR, THIEF, ON PROBATION. SEXUALLY PREMISCIOUS, AND ALOT OTHER PROBLEMS. I GOT A ANONYMOUS PHONE CALL ONE NIGHT . THAT IS HOW I FOUND OUT. LADIES PLEASE DO YOUR HOME
WORK.IF YOU HAVE TO RUN A BACKGROUND CHECK. ONLINE DATING HAS LEFT A SOOUR TASTE IN MY MOUTH.

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Posted March 10, 2009

I think you need to be more open minded to the benifits on online dating. By meeting someone online does not mean you have issues or are anti social it could just mean that you know that there is nobody in your immediate circle you would want to be in a relationship with. If a person is online dating I would say the fact they are looking for company proves they are not anti social.

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Posted March 9, 2009

blah blah blah whatever... online dating is only for people who obviously can't find someone in the real world... because a) they've issues b) are anti-social c) both

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Posted March 8, 2009

i feel the need to mention how online dating hasnt only become popular w/ adults but preteens and teenagers as well. roleplaying sites being a major part in this. you also tend to pick up on little hints even if they do call you on the phone and do send you pics. just because they have a picture doesnt mean it's really them.
i had an online boyfriend and after about 7months they finally told me the truth. i also knew in the back of mind he wasnt being honest but the feelings got in the way.

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Posted March 7, 2009

Online dating scares me. Unless you met them on like, youtube. where you know they are legit. Haha

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Posted March 7, 2009

giancarlo is better than the others

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Posted March 7, 2009

I want to get with plowking69 <3 !

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Posted March 7, 2009

I agree with you.

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Posted March 7, 2009

I'll friend ya plowking69 lolz. :D

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Posted March 6, 2009

hehe...plowking69 ...thats pretty funny

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Posted March 6, 2009

lmao i love this guy

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Posted March 6, 2009

Now I must IM plowking69 ;) jk

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Posted March 6, 2009

haha wow. hey isnt that the guy from the videos with all the guys? or no? idn lol

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Posted March 6, 2009

yay!

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Posted March 6, 2009

GREAT U GUYS ROCK

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