Problems with Mother In Law
marriage life with husband
Hi friends,
I have this bugging question or rather a problem. It seems that my mother in law does not like me at all and our marriage is so called not really "bothered" by her. She thinks that my husband could have gotten a better woman; don't know why. We married with her knowledge but she did not even bother to want to come to our wedding, even though she could have asked.
The thing is, after some time, I've started to see some strains in my marriage life. Or perhaps just on my end. Although my husband does not want to admit it, I know that he feels sad deep within but nothing could change his mom's attitude towards our marriage. And he is no longer in contact with his mom, only during certain occasions would he come visit and the visits were filled with sarcasm from the mom towards us. And my husband is not someone that is favored by his mom too, since he has other siblings that his mom fancies more. How can I save my marriage..?
My husband is always sleeping early everyday and he always admits that he's fine though I don't think that he is. And it's not helping that my husband had been abused when he was little; his dad beat him pretty bad and so, his self confidence since then have not been that good. And with no one to defend him; not even his siblings. I feel like our life is a sad case, especially with his mom having that kind of mentality towards us still.
Any advices are welcome.
Discussion
Thanks so much guys for the great advices. It really helps me a bit to move on, and I suppose you guys are right. I should make the best out of my marriage and stay focus with my husband.
As for proudarmy_wife19, I could see how we are similar in our problem. It is really nice to be reading on someone that has more or less gone through the same type of problem that I have. Great advices there, thanks new friend. :)
TangoLover,
You and your husband must find a way to celebrate what brought you together and use it to keep you together. Your mother-in-law is not in your house, you are. I understand how your husband might feel without the constant communication with his mother but that is not good for you and now is the time for the two of you. Find a way to make it special for the both of you. I truly believe you can do this and your relationship will be better for it.
I Have the same problem it,s been going on for three years she hates me i mean its got to the point were she has pointed a gun at me she thinks that i am not good enough for him he was in iraq for 12 month,s i stayed with his grandparent just so he would know i was safe and being faithful the whole time she tryed to break us up and he dosen,t favor her either similar problems to ur story but to make him happy the best advice i can give you is prtend like u like her i know its hard but you can do it it takes less strain off him when u try to get along i try to avoid her as much as i can when i see her i smile and say hi that way atleast he knows your trying and that makes it alot better i hope this helps.
I don't think this sounds like a problem with your MIL. If she's been distant your whole marriage, why is it a problem now? You say that your husband doesn't think its the problem, so maybe there is something else going on. I think there is another issue here and I'd recommend couples counseling.
Also, your in laws don't sound like healthy people to be around, its probably a blessing they aren't coming over constantly to the point where you have to draw boundaries.
