mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">The women in the audience were brimming with questions. How should a woman swivel her hips when she’s on top? What toys do you want to find in her bedroom? What celebrity would you like to see train your woman in the ways of knockin’ boots? In other words, what do we have to be, look like and do in order for you to want us?
The men were befuddled.
“It’s a problem to mimic someone else’s style without developing your own,” said one panelist. “Women who are good lovers don’t back off from their own sexuality, they understand who they are as sexual beings. So ask yourself, ‘what are the things you like, what titillates you, what makes you curious, what terrifies you?’” More from YourTango: Every Year, My In-Laws Ruin Christmas
Be authentic, the guys said. Listen. Respond. If something feels good to you, it would probably feel good to him. Sure, you could pout like Angelina Jolie and re-enact the entire script of Debbie Does Dallas. But sexiness is something you can’t fake. Besides, it only gets you so far.
“The physical usually doesn’t have staying power,” said another panelist. “It might do me well the first time we sleep together. But I need something more to pull me back.”
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