Do Regular Men Like To Be Dominated?
Do regular dudes like to be dominated in bed? The Frisky investigates.
I haven't met many men that like to be dominated on a regular basis, but most gals I know like to take charge in the bedroom, at least from time to time. Aside from obvious dominate/submissive relationships, how do regular ol' Joes feel about women taking charge between the sheets, both is subtle ways—directing the positions and the pace—and with more obvious methods—spanking, restraints, etc.? I went to the guys on my IM to find out how they feel about being dominated.
Sample answers:
The Hipster Guy: I can say I don't like it all that much, that's for sure.
The Sensitive Guy: It rarely happens, but on the few occasions it does, I like it… Really, what's most fun about her being the leader is that she so clearly wants it.
The Brooding Law School Student: I have been tied up. I really liked it… I loved the trust involved in it. The sense of vulnerability.
The Experienced Guy: I like it as a change of pace, but not as the default.
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Discussion
i can relate... we are married 30 years and for the last 20, we have solved the basic inequlaity of society as it relates to our relationship. We had spanked for foreplay for our entire time together but never for discipline. One day, I was inconsiderated and somewhat tryranical. Two hours later, there were no such issues but I was having trouble sitting down and my belt had been well used to drive the point home.
The next evening, she wanted to talk about the spanking and my embarrassment caused me to change the subject and avoid the discussion. The discussion did occur but my face was towards the pillow while my laready sore butt was being taught the penalty for not admitting my faults and admitting the discipline I deserved and go the night before.
My wife is a kind considerate person and I am much more so now. We use spanking for foreplay but disciplinary spankings are different and they do adjust the power balance while giving her a chance to call the shots. it has added to her confidence and improved our relationship.
Dominating can just be being in charge without "the kink-BDSM" DH likes me to take the initiative, be the one to take charge, but has a major male ego issue if the word or action goes to dominance. What is the difference? Frame of mind? Nope he doesn't like being tied up, spanked, etc but well, other kink dominance.....toys, "being Fd" or being seduced into oblivion, being held down, told what to do is all good....go figure.
My S/O loves to be cuffed spread eagle, and for me to initiate sex. The initiation makes him feel desired, and as Brooding Law Student said, the trust and vulnerability comes into play as far as tying up.
Best Wishes
