Now as far as the death of marriage. How horrible! What a terrible way to think. What has our society come to when our young men can't even be bothered to "go steady" and therefore growing up into older men who "don't believe in marriage"? It's all delusion. It's all so much easier to just "do what we've been doing instead of complicating things with committment". Like, seriously? That's bullshit. It's utter bullshit. And then the women who buy into that... They were in love. I mean, you find this guy who is utterly insanely right for you. You guys get along so well. You're in restaurants and it's like "poppity pop pop"! You're the couple everyone wants to be. And you have to admit, you thought you heard wedding bells. But then this guy says "why complicate things with marriage? things are good the way they are." And you, my smitten kitten, listen. You listen because what's your alternative? Breaking it off with him and faced with being alone the better half of your life? Faced with having to enter the dreaded and confusing dating scene again? Having to play all those head games just to get a month or two out of the guy before he splits? Exactly. You stay because it's easier. You stay because you love him. And 50% of marriages end in divorce anyway right? Who's to say that won't happen to you? But let's be frank about that statement. If and when you do break up with this guy, it will feel like a divorce. It will hurt like a divorce. And either way you will still feel like a fool for believing any part of his bullshit.
I think the death of Marriage comes from the birth of other things. It comes from the acceptance of non-monogamist relationships. It comes from the aid of technology. It comes from different schools of thought reigning over traditionalism. It comes, also, from the decline of religion. People are creating avenues where there were none before. Embarking on a marriage - on a lifelong committment - just seems so improbable when there are so many other avenues for people to take. Which I don't think is a bad thing - I think it's just most things are relatively new. And people don't know how to incorporate these things into the way they previously thought, so they exchange it for a brand new way of thinking.
At it's simplest form, Marriage is two people who want to declare their love to God and enter into a covenant with God through that person. Call me crazy, but there is something sacred about that vow you take. You're going to tell me that you love me, and you can't imagine your life without me - but you can't be bothered to say a few words and sign your name on a sheet of paper? Does that really sound right? It doesn't to me. Your marriage will be what you put into it. And if you're saying you can't bring yourself to take a vow to God to be with me the rest of your life - then you're saying you don't truly believe you just want to be with me. You're saying that you don't believe you can put that into it, what you claim to already be putting into it. And so, at the very least, I don't want anybody by my side for a lifetime that can't physically take a vow to do it. I can't believe in someone who can't believe in marriage.
I continue to remain optimistic. I would rather be alone than be hurt by anyone else. And I am confident I will find the right guy for me. Eventually. May have a few more frogs to kiss before one turns into my prince. But I am willing to wait.