The man I hope to get into a more serious relationwhip with.

The man I hope to get into a more serious relationwhip with.

The man I hope to get into a more serious relationwhip with.

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The man I hope to get into a more serious relationwhip with.

I meet this guy online at okcupid.com (really good free dating site.) The first day he sends me a message on the site and I replied to him almost instantly. From that day on we started of messaging each other, then it develop to text messages on the phone, and talking to each other on the phone.
The next day was Super Bowl Sunday, he decided that he wanted to come over and watch the game over at my place with my family due to his other plans had failed. But as much to my dismay, his friend got a hold of him before he could leave his place, so meeting him that day was a dud. We decided that we would met the next day on Monday. I drove near his house and waited for him to arrive at our meeting place so I could follow him to his house, after he went to the store and picked up his children from daycare. So my son and I meet him and his 2 children. That day, all we could do was talk more about our interests and we found out that we like a lot of the same things. And we both had a lot of crummy relationships, but all of his have always seem to end up with the girlfriend or wife cheating on him. Which is how his last relationship had ended after only 6 months, and has now been about a month since they broke up, and he was still recovering from the ordeal. I left his house later that evening, he walked me out to my car and gave me a hug, no kiss just a hug, I thought maybe he is a good guy and doesn't kiss on the first date. After I got home we talked on the phone before bed, and I thought again, it must not of been that bad if he is still talking to me. GOOD! A few days later I asked him why he didn't kiss me and he said "he doesn't kiss on the first date, and because he likes to torture himself.". I asked him "But how is a girl supposed to know if the guy likes her if he doesn't kiss her?" He replied "Girls like mystery" I told him "I don't like mystery, I like to KNOW." So the next time I saw him I grabbed him and kissed him hard just to make sure he got the point.
Now for the bad news:
I have come to figure out that he is not fully over the past break-up, the ex still had a key, and she had came over while he was at work and taken a few of her items. When he noticed the items were gone he asked her if she did and she got upset with him for asking her. Then she asked him if she could buy his bed, and at that point I told him its time to change the locks, she may take the bed while you are at work.
A few days later while I was staying over night at his place, I left the house and took the new keys with me. My sweetie calls me and tells me that "she" was at the house with "the new boyfriend"(the one she cheated and left him for) and they had gotten in through the back door. He was on his way home and I tried to get there as fast as I could. He had gotten there before me, and he just couldn't tell her to leave, I could see the hurt and pain rebuilding inside of him as he watched her and the new boyfriend be all huggie and kissie with each other. I even tried to ask her to leave, but she just wouldn't and chewed my sweeties ear off for him not telling her that. But yet she never leaves. I understand that he told her that they would still be friends but her falling all over the guy she cheated with in front of the ex is just mean. So, he asked me if I wanted to go with him to pick up his kids at daycare I gladly said yes thinking that maybe they would get the clue and leave, there no clue left in there brains. Supposedly her eye hurt, so we let them stay. We got back 20 minutes later and they were still there. My sweetie said he walked in on her giving him "head." I thought "I really wish I could just take them both by their heads and throw them out. 20 minutes later they left, Finally. While my sweetie went out for a drive, to cool off, I feed the kids and got them ready for bed. During dinner his daughter said she was happy to see the "ex" there cause that means that they are getting back together. That was the last straw. I politely explained to her that this would not happen because her father is not happy with the "ex" and she will probably not be coming around anymore. Now for more about the ex, a few days later my sweetie was taking a nap and I borrowed his phone to call a friend of his, He got a text message with this funny of the day quote, so I started looking for more to help my mood. As I start flipping through the texts I come across some from the ex from the day she was at his house. Most were of her bitching about me, and his mother texting her thinking I had something to do with it. So to get an idea of the whole conversation I looked at what was said by my sweetie, his were just mostly chewing her butt out for giving the ex head and how much it hurt him to walk in on it. The one message caught my eye, the last messages he sent to her said that he loved her. Now its been over a week since I saw those texts, still haven't told him I read them (even though he told her he would let me read them.) But now I am not so sure if I want to waste my time with him or should I just wait it out and see if anything else happens? I like him a lot and I know he feels the same about me, but if I'm not going to improve on how his past relationships had been before and make him realize that not all women cheat, then why should I stay and risk getting hurt, because he may not come to love me like he does his ex.

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