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WHAT GIVES ? Stay Or Get Out? N Pesky Roommates

Ok here it goes.
My b/f and i are dating for about 6months now.
We used to see one another twice a week due to his hectic schedule, and we had no problem with that at all.
The sex is incredible, yet a bit one sided but I can deal with that.
I also have to add, that im quite a few years older then he is, hes 21.
Anyhow, Since mid December he became the general manager where he works, and he had no clue of what to do, but hes handling it just great, far from, and im very proud of him for doing so great and i tell him that all the time.
Since then, we only meet only once a week, and at times he dont even stay the night anymore where he used to.
I still can handle that.
BUT he also has a roommate, and hes a handfull, extremely needy ALL the time.
The guy is ten yrs older then my bf, but always plays the helpless type.
Last night me and my man were watching a movie, and the roomie called, so my man had 2 leave to go pick him up........
well needless to say my an didnt come back to me afterwards, he decided to stay home w the roommate....
And yes it has happened a few times like that, and im getting really sick of it.
He also texts significantly LESS then he did in the beginning,
can anyone give some insight here, should i hang in till things go better? or just let go?
And what to do about his pesky Room Mate?
All input greatly appreciated.

M.

Posted: Mon, 02/16/2009 - 4:48am

Well here's a great and NOt so great update on the both of us.
Our relationship is been improving the past few weeks, but it didnt happen without incidents.......
Let me catch u p.
Justin got arrested during a traffic violation............(something really minor like a seatbelt, but this is Tulsa OK lol)
So I went to tha Jailhouse and bailed him out, and it all made him very embarassed, however i didnt scold him nor complain.
He spend the days awaiting his court day with me at my homw, and it really opened hs eyes as to what kind of person I really am.
He talked more then he ever opened up before, and he said finally he loved me.
Then it came to the topic of his room mate, (he brought it up, i didnt)
He said he understood that his room mate was taking advantage of him, and that he really wanted to live with me instead, yet he has a lease where he lives till September.
So all said and done, nothing we currently do about that.
So we went to court, and all went well, and ever since justin is been at my home every day.
He helps around the house, does dishes etc.
So yesterday he really surprised me whith two rings with both our names engraved in them, and the date that we met! one for me one for him!
Thats the update on this story folks, and I think in his downfall he really learned what being in love really means.
i will keep u all updated of any progress soon.

Sincerely Monica

Posted: Wed, 03/25/2009 - 2:47am

Well thres a lil ray of sunshine over the past weeks.
The past week hes been showing up more and longer, and that makes me happy.
On the other hand the room mate is still using up a majority of his time, but i kinda made him AWARE of that today.
Mostly Justin listens to me and then makes up his own mind.
Lets see if my suggestions worked...........stay tuned.

Posted: Sun, 02/22/2009 - 4:03am

I don't think the problem is the roommate. The roommate is just a stand in for something else. Your problems won't go away if the roommate does. You just have to decide if you want to put up with the other problems that will inevitably crop up and will look very similar to the ones you are experiencing now. If the answer is no. Then go.

Posted: Tue, 02/17/2009 - 12:53pm

Agreed. This sounds very strange indeed.

You don't have control over someone else's actions, but you do over your own. Good luck!

Posted: Thu, 02/19/2009 - 8:30am

Well here's a great and NOt so great update on the both of us.
Our relationship is been improving the past few weeks, but it didnt happen without incidents.......
Let me catch u p.
Justin got arrested during a traffic violation............(something really minor like a seatbelt, but this is Tulsa OK lol)
So I went to tha Jailhouse and bailed him out, and it all made him very embarassed, however i didnt scold him nor complain.
He spend the days awaiting his court day with me at my homw, and it really opened hs eyes as to what kind of person I really am.
He talked more then he ever opened up before, and he said finally he loved me.
Then it came to the topic of his room mate, (he brought it up, i didnt)
He said he understood that his room mate was taking advantage of him, and that he really wanted to live with me instead, yet he has a lease where he lives till September.
So all said and done, nothing we currently do about that.
So we went to court, and all went well, and ever since justin is been at my home every day.
He helps around the house, does dishes etc.
So yesterday he really surprised me whith two rings with both our names engraved in them, and the date that we met! one for me one for him!
Thats the update on this story folks, and I think in his downfall he really learned what being in love really means.
i will keep u all updated of any progress soon.

Sincerely Monica

Posted: Wed, 03/25/2009 - 2:49am

Thanks for the update, Monica! I hope it works out for you. Sounds like most of the people who wrote in response said they thought the roommate was a stand in for something. do you agree with that? did you discover what it was?

Posted: Wed, 03/25/2009 - 9:41am

Well the roommate is pretty much on the way out, ill give it maybe another month or two.
But now when we spend time together Justin turns off is phone for the time hes with me.
I didnt ask him 2 do that, he did that on his own, and he voices now complaints abt the roommate aswell.
He knows hes being used, and I'm glad he took notice.
Isnt it amazing how a few hours of Jail changes people.
Justin was here last night and he was so sweet, hes wearing his ring with a lot of pride lol, however where my ring is engraved on the outside, his is engraved on the inside, and i dont mind that 1 bit, key is hes wearing it

Monica.

Posted: Wed, 03/25/2009 - 8:37pm

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