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This may be harsh but he is bullshitting you cheating is cheating what you think when your married he won,t cheat on you let me ask you this do you think he willl love any more or any less when your married same thing cheating while your not married isn,t goin to change when you are and him still talking to her and he saya that he has to thats bullshit dont blind think about yourself ur number one!!!!! |
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yes use him he wants to pay all the bills. that is what you should do |
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Sure, why not? |
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Dear friend, From your description of the encounters, he could be genuinely torn between the two of you (one being an ex and thus emotional legacy while the new you, suits him well; at least he is comfortable in your presence). I reckon you do feel and care for this guy, since you are happy staying with him. At this point, two persons who care about each other are together; so feel free to allow him to support you through your studies. He appears willing (and believe me, men feel good when the women they fancy relies on them financially; being a provider reminds them of their manhood - since you can't have sex all the time!) Nothing stays the same, including love. Do not worry about tomorrow, which you cannot control (including his love for you). But it appears to me that he does love you, today, now. Treasure that. If it lasts for the period till you graduate from your studies, be it. If it stretches more, congrats! One cannot never know the future. Live it today. My blessings to you both. |
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@DailyRenewal: "Nothing stays the same, including love. Do not worry about tomorrow, which you cannot control" Lovely. And very wisely put. |
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Thank you, Great advice! I guess I shouldn't give my hopes up ! |
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Do you know the expression |
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Ha, I figured as much but it sounds like he wants me to use him too.. Which is why I am confused. He is supporting me every way possible-giving me his card to go shopping & does everything else for me. I don't feel right using his things if he's not with me. That's where I am lost... |
I've been dating this guy for 5 months now. We work together, we live together and we have almost everything in common. I definitely sense a connection between us. We like the same sports, music, and the same entertainment interests. Of course, we are sexually active and the sex is great- we both enjoy it. We have only one problem-the ex girl friend
He told me about two days after we started dating (because I noticed he would get phone calls and not answer) that his ex g.f keeps calling but he told her that he didn't want to be with her. I've heard multiple phone conversations with him telling her this. She doesn't stop! One night, she even stopped by and was banging on the door and he wouldn't let her in or let me open the door. I've never seen him so scared! So she has always been a distraction since we started dating. One night, he came home and I felt a negative aura and I accused him of cheating and he admitted to it. It hurt but it didn't bother me as bad as it because we aren't married. He says he still talks to her because she has a car loan in his name and he does it for business purposes-which I can understand that.
He says he is having trouble picking between the two of us and i don't see her going away for a long time well at least until the car is paid off which is probably another 4 years. They have no ties other than the car. In the meantime, he says that he gives me everything I want- He doesn't let me help with the bills and he wants to support me. I am a college student & i work so I am going through some rough times. He is 13 years older than me and she is 4 years older than him.
Should I continue to stay with him and put up with worrying if he is cheating with her all the time or should i just take his offer and let him support me until I get on my feet?