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My suggestion is while cooking dinner, reading the paper, or what ever common daily non sexual activity you are doing, lean over and whisper in his ear-or look up and get his attention- and say exactly what you want to do with a few phrasing in kink. In other words use the word c**k/penis-p***y/vagina instead of man/woman hood, maleness/femaleness. It depends on how "gentlemanly" your guy is. Baby steps....sound more like erotica to Penthouse rather than Danielle Steel or Sandra Brown-HBO vs ABC..... then go back to what ever you were doing, but make sure to check out his response with out him knowing your checking. If he is disgusted then next time try a magazine, game, or the web to show him your not a pervert and that you are just trying to spice things up. Surprise does not count as disgust!!!!! Give him time to adjust and wait for his response. JM2c |
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way I see it is go for it ..tell them what you want and how you want it ..no more than you are they are mind readers and sometimes need directions even when they dont ask for them. |
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I'd say depending on the person you are with im sure you should have a good idea of how kinky or not the person is. If the person is a kinky person it shouldnt be that hard to bring up the idea of trying something new or maybe not so new but kinky, im sure the person has been thinking it but doesnt know how to approach you with it. If the person is not so kinky, try sex games. There are a vast amount of those on the market or try something simple. Play strip games (strip poker), watch a porn movie, im sure the person will immediately be thinking WOA!! something is going on and i want to be apart of it. If you've been with the person for some time it should be relatively easier to spice things up. Here's something someone told me. She went up to her boyfriend after she just got out the shower, hair wet and she just told him she wanted him to do filthy things to her, it doesnt matter what it was.......and i'll stop there. But the point is sometimes you just gotta be aggressive and get it across to your partner that you are feeling like a bad bad absolutely naught girl. If they dont get the hint find someone who will. :) Cheers |
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This one is easy..... Tell him you find pleasure in pleasing him..... or "It is absolutely wonderful and rare to find a guy that is into my pleasure, but I am not completely happy because I find pleasure in giving pleasure. So, do you want to make me complete? Can I?" or some such phrasing. Congratulations, know that most of us women envy you, but I understand the void. Make it still about your pleasure, not about you but about your pleasure, this has worked for my other friends in your situation. Good Luck! |
Okay. Question: Say you want to try out something new in bed, how do you broach the subject with your partner?
Do you just say, "Hey! Let's do____" or do you whip out your karma sutra book?
Recently I heard about couples playing games like Sexy Slang to make the topic fun and less intimidating. Have you tried that? Do you think its a good idea?
What's the best and safest way to talk sexy?