me and my husband have been together 28 YEARS . we joke around about if we ever went our sepert ways we would still get together for sex. we know how our man wants it and he knows just how to drive me crazy. its a tuff call for other relashionships beouse sex can always bring up the past. but as of now and for a long time to c*m i dont have to worry about that.
I have ex-sex with every ex I have had. I wanted a clean relationship with no lies and sometines the sex is all I wanted or cared about. The husband that I married was my bestfriend for five years before we got together and we dated for five more. I finally don't have sex with my ex's anymore because we have activities that we enjoy doing together to keep me wanting more from him. And even if we are mad at each other the sex is better. I would recommend people to look less for attraction and look more for substance.
I have before with a couple of my X's. It was for the fun of it and most of the time, we were both drunk. We both wanted to and both used eachother so no one got hurt.
You should never think that it will ever be more than just sex because that is all it is. You feel comfortable with them and that is why it's so easy to give in plus you don't have to add another person to the list of people you have been with...that's a good thing in my eyes...lol.
I never cheated with an ex, there not worth that much to me!
wow, i've had sex with my ex while dating my new girlfriend. i don't know what it is, my new girlfriend has never had a boyfriend before so she didn't know how to treat me like how i wanted to be treated which is the feelings that my ex use to give me, so i missed that, and by that i kept going back to my ex. plus my new girlfriend isn't really that type of a touchy intimacy type, but on the other hand i am, i like to cuddle and fool around. my ex and i use to do a lot of that, cuddling, fooling around, play crazy sex games. i don't think my new girlfriend is ever going to change, because in public even, she is scared to kiss me or hug me because people might see. what should i do guys? its hard to have true feelings for this women. i mean i've already had sex with my new girlfriend, i mean not new new girlfriend but 3 years already. and she can get really wild sometimes but the thing that bothers me the most is that when we do end up having sex, its me that makes the move first, and that just makes me feel like oh, all i want is sex all the time because for 3 years now she has never made a move on me, not just talking about sex too, its about giving me a (out of the blue) kiss on the cheek, or everytime we see each other i wish she would just give me a hug instead of just standing there looking at me. while on the other hand my ex was really good a surprise me, she would come on to me (and i loved that) she would hold my hand and kiss me and just lovely things like that. huhh..i seriously don't know what to do anymore. i mean haven't seen my ex for over 2 years now and i don't plan too but i just don't know what to do with my current girlfriend. i just want her to be more comfortable around me and relaxed around me. i just want her to be a girlfriend instead of a friend.
What sucks, or could save you, is that it sounds like you really love her (your current girlfriend). This makes all the "you need to dump her and move on" and "this ain't gonna work, run away!!!" advice REALLY hard to swallow and just not as easy as people want to make it sound.
The reality is that, unless you plan on leveling with her (completely and, unfortunately, painfully) on the intimacy issue, that is exactly what you need to do. You seem to love sex and "fooling around" (whether that's a quick smooch at the mall or patting her behind as she walks by at home) and she does not reciprocate in a way that makes you feel fulfilled.
Without getting the problem in the open, this will not go away; she will not change one day. And you are not going to be happy with a sex and romance life on those terms, that is 100% guaranteed.
If you think talking about it (between the two of you or in counselling) is not going to happen, for whatever reason, then you are just burning days of your life needlessly. However, simply because she does not "play the game" like you do now does not mean she wouldn't if she knew how much you needed it. She may behave that way for reasons you have not thought about (she may fell you think she's "slutty" if she makes passes at you or perhaps she thinks you feel it is your job to be the "aggressor" and doesn't want to take that from you).
Think it over... 3 years is a long time to be with someone, especially if you're really young, and it is obvious you don't want to just toss it.
One last thing, DO NOT talk to your current girlfriend about your "last flings" with your ex unless it is something that is eating you up and you are ready for the admission to end the relationship right there; that very second. That was a long time ago, you have been faithful since then and you seem to know better than to make contact with the ex again in the future so long as you are in your current relationship. IT WILL NOT HELP THE RELATIONSHIP AND DON'T LET ANY NEW AGE HOLISTIC THERAPY NUT TELL YOU DIFFERENTLY OR THAT SHE WOULD WANT TO KNOW!!!
Good luck, bro! You are in quite a bind and, no matter what you choose, the next step will be really tough. But doing nothing would be the worst thing you could do.
It sounds that your new girlfriend is emotionally detached. This is not a cat and mouse where you work over time to make all the first passes. It should be equally coming from both sides. This does not sound like a good situation to be in. To be always questioning your partners countability to make you happy and secure is sign to quit now. Before anyone gets hurt.
About five months ago my ex fiance and i of 2 years broke up , i love him so much. We have been hanging out and seeing each other every week because we share the same group of friends. We started having sex every once in a while , last week i found out he started dating someone and has cheated on her with me 3 times. This morning i ended it. I love him so much and thought maybe i had a chance but i can see now he has moved on. Sex with your ex is a bad thing to do , it just leads to more heart ache. Give it a year or more before you even try to.
I still really love my ex, and yeah, I've broken up with boyfriends before...but this guy, I just can't get over. I know that still having sex with him won't change *his* opinion of me but like I said, I still really love him and believe me I've tried to get over him..I just can't though and it is driving me absolutely mad...
i know exactly how you feel , i have tried to go on a date or two but the thought of someone else near me is appalling. Give it time and loads of it , this morning i left my ex after finding out he has a girl now , i don't know what i am going to do not even being friends with him , but i need time to heal. if he really loves you he will come back to you.
u can relate with all of it except i had sex with my Ex while dating my Bf Hayden i felt bad bout it but my Ex Tyler does it WAY better than Hayden!!
I found it almost impossible to break up if returning to an ex for sex. I left my ex-husband probably 4 times before it was finally over but had a boyfriend by then, but trouble with the boyfriend led me back to my ex-husband, then trouble with the ex-husband led me back to my boyfriend, which was also a bad relationship. I finally got the ex-boyfriend out of my system because I CAN'T FIND HIM (he moved, etc) and my ex-husband got a girlfriend. Well the girlfriend didn't work and the ex-husband came back to me. But I still pine for the ex-boyfriend so got a new lover (to use) to forget him. I do NOT suggest continuing a sexual relationship with any ex.
After my ex-husband and I separated, and the pain and hurt wore off eventually, we still had sex frequently. I think it was more confusing for him at first, because I was the one who left, but eventually it turned into a very convenient friends-with-benefits type of arrangement. I was actively dating after we had been separated for 5 months up until a few months ago, but not in any committed relationships (same went for him). He's a great guy, and a wonderful father, but we were highly incompatible in our relationship. However, after the pressure was off (fighting, trying to save a failing marriage, etc), we were free to enjoy the sex because there was no tension and anger between us. We also interacted and got along much better. I'd still have sex with him in a heartbeat if we both weren't in other relationships. It's perfectly possible to have a sexual relationship with an ex, as long as enough time has passed to get over the emotional grieving over the relationship, and as long as you keep it in perspective.
i dont think that i could ever have sex with my ex, why? because he was the past even though he was very attractive n hot. i think once u have moved on with ur life let it be so, i knw that some time running into ur ex can make things complicated but i guess it dont worth sexing him. u wil only be putting ur self in an difficult spot. so y did u break if off in the first place? come on girls, the guy that his in ur life must worth it if ur with him now so dont fool ur self cause sex only last for few mins.
my boyfriend is great and sex is great but i keep running into my ex. And it's this attraction that comes between us everytime. See me and my ex never had sex. It's been five years now since we've broken up, and the relationship that was between us was puppy love. But now that we're both all grown up...everytime we run into each other..the attraction grows and grows...i don't know wat to do
im 21 years old when i was 16 i met the man who i thought was the love of my life..for a teenager i had an amazing sex life...while the girls in school complained of how there boyfriends weren't into certain things in bed (oral) and stuff i had no complaints he was amazing in bed...we only lasted 6 months and i loved him but although he really cared for me LOVE wasnt mutual at least not in love...we parted i was heartbroken but we stayed the best of friends eventually i learned me and him just didnt match for anything....well i take that back we got along great with one thing...SEX...
so since the age of 16-21 we've had lots of it...
however im with someone and we got together when i was 18 i have cheated on him with my ex about 3 times during our three years...i try to be right and accept that even though my boyfriend is not great in bed he's great for everything else but my ex is my guilty pleasure.the sound of his voice ...nope dont get it twisted im not in love with him...but he jus gets me wanting him soooooooooooo baddddddd
GIRL I NO EXACTLY HOW YA FEEL.... ME AND MY EX JUST CANT SEEM TO GET ENOUGH OF EACH OTHA... I THINK MAYBE BECAUSE HE WAS MY FIRST EVERYTHIING THAT HE AFFECTS ME... I MEAN I TRY TO TALK TO OTHA DUDES BUT THEY DONT CATCH MY ATTENTION LIKE HE DOES SO ITS HARD TO MOVE ON.... BUT UR SITUATION IS DIFFERENT AT LEAST YOU LEFT URS AND GOT WITH SOMEBODY ELSE BUT MAYBE YOU SHOULD CONSIDER BEIN HIS FRIEND CUZ ITS NO SENSE IN PLAYIN WIT HIS HEART WHEN YA NO UR LUSTING FOR UR EX.... AND I HOPE I DONT OFFEND U OR ANYHING BUT THATS JUST HOW I SEE IT... AND IF HE'S WILLIN TO ACCEPT THAT THEN UR GOOD..LOL!
well i'm on my way of trying the sleeping with the ex-thing, Not to move on with my life but to keep both mans in my life. The man (boy) that im with he's 22 years old and still live with his mother,We've been together for 5 years on and off, he has a job and all he do with his money is buy things for himself. We have a two year old baby together and it seen like she's not around in his mind, anything the baby need i buy it and pay for daycare.He dony do anything but for some reason i love him , i know i know how can you love someone who dont treat you right, i guess it got to the point where it's normall for me i dont know. He doing take care of me as his girl for 5 years. anyways long story short i meet this ok looking guy he takes great care of me anything i want i would get it without asking 2 times i mean he is what everyone would call a one in a million.but i didnt know what to do how to make him see that i was falling for him because i didnt know how to show my love anymore because of my Babyfather. then ii seen him with another girl and thats not what i wanted i didnt want another girl geting what i work for,for so long so i told him i want him back and thats nit what i really wanted. I let the "j" word get to me. now since i can be with the man i really want im going to sleep with him with out my babyfather knowing about it right NOW.....
