How To Kiss Well
A guy who loves kissing explains why making out is special and how to deal with a bad kisser.
In its fully realized form, kissing is an alternate language in which lovers conduct a parallel courtship—they tease, they connect, they discover an accord. In this second relationship, the kissing relationship, Sarah needed to take it slow. I found that she had no problem with playful kissing. She would always return a peck, and bite back if I nibbled her lip. She could enjoy a kiss that did nothing more than flirt.
For a couple who had initially sprinted past first base without touching the bag, this tentativeness might seem odd. But the body can be a blunt instrument, easy to use as an outlet for the passion of new love. On the more emotional terrain of the mouth, Sarah was a modest girl, wary of committing herself too readily.
After a time, the kisses started to last longer. A gifted if infrequent poet, Sarah began to appreciate how a good kiss, like a poem, suggests more than it says outright, expressing those feelings that lovers can share only indirectly. Her creativity was stirred. She, too, has become an aficionado. Click Here to Download Relationship Help and Love Advice to Your iPod or Computer
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I love this article! I haven't actually kissed anyone passionetly.. only three guys during a game of spin the bottle. And they werent really kisses, just a little peck on the lips. And about a week after, all three guys said my lips were really wet. I was self-concious because i have dry lips, and i didnt have chap stick with me,so i licked my lips before i kissed them. And now, whenever someone says something about kissing me.. they all say no. Then go on and kiss (peck on the lips) someone else. So, i was really worried about my first REAL kiss (whenever i have it) But this article shows me that there really isnt such thing as a BAD KISSER. Just kissing badly. But, it can be fixed. Thanks!!
this is amazing. i've never kissed anyone, cuz i am only (well to tell ya, i'm young.) but anyway, i am going out with this guy, i'm going to kiss him after school and i'm afraid he is gonna try to do me french. that is gonna be hard for me. i'm gonna look up how to french kiss just in case. but thanks for this article!
Well i can say that i also can relate, more than once actually, i was seeing this guy for a little over a month and every time he kissed me he tried stickin his tounge down my throat and i would pulled away! I couldn't stand it after that i left him because there jus wasen't anything there! The second way that i can relate is my boyfriend now of a year and i dont wanna tell him that he's a bad kisser, but also so we don't really kiss pasionatly either and i would love to b/c I AM ALL FOR KISSING ESPECIALLY IF THEY KNOW HOW TO KISS! LOL
Kissing is the most passionate thing in my relationship with my boyfriend. Him and I end up with our lips locked at anytime we can and even wke up kissing each other in the middleof the night. Kissing is an art....An art of LOVE! I love it and I would never consider myself a teacher or a student. Its when you find that one that you click with. Like the man I am with now. Our first kiss was amazing and since then they have gotten even better because of our love growing towards each other.
I've been told many times I'm a GREAT! kisser. I guess I have been a teacher this whole time and never knew it. I have a kissing rhythm, you can either match it or you learn it after a few times. I had this one guy who was a horrible kisser (and psycho), it took him a couple of tries, but he finally found my rhythm and kissed WAY better. He still tried to launch himself into my mouth every once and awhile, but it wasn't so bad.
very interesting article.. kissing for me is the best expression of passion that you feel with the person. I love kissing too, I can handle for hours.. LOL
it is the best activity than actual sex. You can stop and finish sex but in kissing its like that you dont like to stop it..
This is an interesting article! Thanks for sharing.
Indeed, kissing is more intimate than having sex because it will determine in some ways if that person has great passion, love or just simply feel lusty for you.
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I agree,kissing is great when done right! I have missed out on it for years,as my x,of 18 years of marriage was not a very good kisser and had the most terrible bad breath you would not believe! So I learned early to turn the kiss away,but boy did I miss kissing.Now I have a man in my life that I can just loose myself in his kisses!!And I think it makes the sex all the better,plus you dont feel like a hooker!!!LOL
I think kissing is by far the most intimate experience ever. i could kiss for hours with the right person. Its both like a symphony of beautiful music, that takes you to another place and opens you up from the inside, and like a slow dance that takes your breath away when you are in synchronicity. Nothing like a kissing!
My husband and I could always kiss for hours. He was a great kisser. But then 25 years ago he deployed for a year, hooked up with some girl who kissed entirely differently. Yeah, I could tell. He never recovered his skills from before. We haven't kissed passionately since. I can't stand the open-mouth suck face thick tongue down my throat. Gross.
I can't stand that either. It's like get your damn tongue out of my throat. My husband wants me to do more of it. Is there middle ground????
i relete coz to my side i feel gud if he kisses me and i bare it my mind that he loves me.
it also build our stay together. in short it shows that we realy love one another.
I have had so many bad kissers. I agree For me it starts there, continues and ends there. There is an art to kissing. And done right will bring me to my knees. The energy from the kiss sets the rest of the way for me. LONG LIVE A GREAT KISSER!
i think it was agreat article cuz to me kissing is everything when i see ma friend the first thing we do is kiss and its just as amazing as everything else lol
As they say practice makes the man perfect especially if you are at a very young age. Kissing is an art and everyone may not be the master. At the same time you can always be one. If you are not really satisfied with the way your partner kisses, take the controls in your hand. Be the guider and make him/her learn.
I remember a couple years ago I started to make out with a girl I really liked I initiated it she was surprised at first so she did not do much couple seconds later she got into it and she shoved her tongue in my mouth with out moving her lips and it seriously felt like i was making out with a snake I stopped right there but didn't really pull away but she got the message that it was kinda creepy and I started kissing her again and she stopped using her tongue like that for the rest of the time we dated.
Im 19 and been single until now. I have never practice kissing neither kissed a boy until finally having a bf and my first kiss which was horrible as i thought about it after even my bf was honest about it. But he told me that ill get better later on and that practice makes perfect. So being with him for two months now, i have gotten a little bit better but not fully there yet with tongue and all,hehe. He says im getting better but i say i guess still not satisfied, the best part of this relationship is that he is such a good kisser...actually more like a hot kisser bc i just get turned on everytime he starts kissing me while using his tongue, LOL. So this is a very good article to read and the tips from this article is great for me.
Ahhh!!! Love the topic. I’ve always been told I’m a great kisser but I couldn't exactly tell you why. Even in high school I seemed to end kissing other guys women. Maybe the blue bedroom eyes and fuller lips (I couldn't see it,lol) but it's in the beholder I suppose. Of course if you like something chances are you'll be good at it because ,so to speak, you put all your passion, heart and soul into it and there's unseen but felt sexual energy in that kiss. So what do you expect with a screen name like mine? LOL. I do like all the versions of a kiss related here but what excites, arouses me the most and contrary to some comments and the originator of this topic, is when a woman does attack?? me with her tongue, thrusting as it were. That’s the closest I’ll ever get to having the feeling of penetration and woman on the sexual offensive. That hopefully relates to how she feels during intercourse from a man. The one kiss I’ll always remember is a woman who seemed to like my tongue but did not give me her's , then all of a sudden something happened to her and I found myself with the longest and thinnest tongue, yes like a snake , darting almost to my throat and taking my breath away. Like the oldies song kept repeating "it's in his (or her) kiss".........
Great article; totally agree with the author. Since I was a young teenager, I've enjoyed kissing. As an almost 50 year old woman, I can say this....bad kissing is a deal breaker. A few co-workers were discussing this point....she said, "My husband and I kiss alittle, but it's just a precursor to sex". My response, "If the kissing isn't great, there won't BE any sex." And I stand by this...to me, kissing is like making love with the mouth. There's so much you can do to mimic the same movements and sensations that you might get during sex....like sucking on his tongue, as if you were giving him a blow job. The guy I'm with now is 13 years my junior and THE best kisser I've ever experienced...it's no wonder the sex is mind blowing too!
I had a experience with someone who only wanted to stick their tongue in your mouth but taught him thats not only thing you do when you go to kiss someone. I told him without telling him if you know what I mean. So no you dont have to suffer and no you dont have to make someone feel sub-concious about you can simply do what I did guide them!
I think it's terrible that some girls won't tell guys they're bad kissers. If you care about the guy, you'll want to help him by letting him know! After all, isn't that what relationships are about?
- Lauren
How To French Kiss
I dated a guy who kissed with such passion that it aways got me hot but that was all he had he was a terrible boyfriend and not into me at all to him it was just kissing to me the earth opened it some times can be misleading .on the other hand I dared another for ten years he was very romantic did everything for me and my family but the kiss was like murder by tongue HARRIBLE some people have it and some don't
This is the sexiest, coolest article I've read in a long time. I agree completely about the importance of kissing. My most memorable boyfriend was an incredible kisser, we kissed for hours quite happily. Wow, what good memories!
I dated a guy for 2 years, off and on, who didn't know how to kiss. He went for the "let me stick my tongue down your throat, as far as I can" approach. I did exactly as stated in the article: went for slow kisses, withdrew, started to tease, and he would reciprocate, eventually. But then it would always head to the "AHGGGRRAAAGGAGAAAGGGG" tongue gagging action. Sometimes I just didn't feel like kissing him because I knew where it would always go.
I never had the heart to tell him he wasn't a great kisser. It just didn't seem as important at the time as appreciating him as a good person.
well ,my boyfriend is a good kisser and i am too and showing our affection develop into somehting serios in bed..thats cool about kissing turns into getting hot .....
I was my boyfriend of 3 years first kiss lol. He was horrible the first time but I taught him the right way. Now he makes no mistakes...whether its being romantic or just sexual his kisses make me melt. Sometimes I feel like he taught me!!! Kissing rox my sox lol!!! Eyes closed are a plus...
kissing with passion and also with a good person makes one feels great.
Being the older 1 of the two, Justin didnt really know HOW to kiss, besides like a goldfish being frowned lol.
Now 6 months into the relationship, hes getting much better.
Practice makes perfect afterall.
no doubt about it kissing is so much fun! but there is an art to kissing. i think most of it has to do with who you are kissing. whenever you kiss someone new for the first time, you never know what to expect, but once the two of you have gotten into a rhythm every time the two of you kiss it will be perfect! and kissing is totally a necessity in a relationship. if a guy wants to be serious with me but still refuses to kiss me ... not cool. chances are he probably isn't into that relationship and i'm not either.
Sometimes the kiss is that good that you cant help but close your eyes or sometimes you dont even notice that your eyes even closed to me that means the kiss was spectacular!!
I concur wholeheartedly. My very recent ex was not a kisser. And because she felt that she was not a good kisser, she did not care to indulge any activities that she wasn't convinced she was "good" at. While I knew how much I thoroughly enjoy the nuances and expressions of kissing, I didn't realize how much a necessity is it for me until I was in a relationship where it wasn't reciprocated or appreciated. Of course her aversion to kissing was merely a symptom of much deeper issues with commitment and emotional vulnerability. And I truly believe that that's where the art of kissing stems - the ability (and desire) to express oneself in that unique, passionate setting that can be as innocent as it is erotic
I actually love to kiss however, my wife is not a big fan of passionate kissing. And I dont mean all sloppy and wet, just sensual, slow kissing. So I basically have just lived with it for 15 years but I believe kissing is the first intimate step to truly connecting with another and it can be very rewarding if the other is into it because, if its good kissing it only leads to the next step in the intense physical connection. Thanks for the article and any thoughts on how I can persuade my wife to kiss more? Peace.
Well Ben I can actually say, "You are right on the money about KISSING". I love to kiss, it is something about the feel the passion that you can give someone without taking off your clothes. Just as you have, I have also came across the tongue bandit. You just want to stop them and say," HEY! are you trying to kill me with that thing". My current "friend" doesn't really like to kiss . I think he has had a few bad situations with kissing. He does like the light kiss of my lips against his. But, I've been working on him. He is starting to relax a little more. I just want to say..THANKS for letting some people know there is an art to kissing. To all you non-kissers please read this article and take some pointers (2nd page starting with paragraph 1).
