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You Are My Holiday Gift

Jenny Block thanks her readers for giving her a forum to write about open marriage.

In this holiday season of gratitude and giving, I wanted to express my thanks for this forum in which to speak, and for all of you. I don't take lightly this opportunity, which allows me to share my thoughts and ideas despite their being considered less than typical in some circles. 

I am grateful too for the places in which I can "preach to the choir," so to speak. But here, I so very much value the chance to talk to people who, though different from me, are here to read with open minds and hearts, people who, like myself, are simply doing their best to fill this journey with love and meaning. 

We may never know if we got this life thing "right." All we can know is whether we enjoyed the ride. I certainly don't have all of the answers. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not sure I have any of them, in fact. But I have found some ways of thinking and living and loving that have brought joy to my life and to the lives of those around me. 

Ideas in a vacuum are little more than air. But when they fall into a room full of thinkers interested in pondering them, then they become possibilities. And that is what makes me so grateful for this platform and for you. You have made my ideas yours and yours mine and now we are a part of something so much more. We are a part of making change.

Big or small. We are a part of change. Changing the way we think about love. Changing the way we think about marriage. Changing the way we look at one another. It has been a difficult year—or several years even—for most of us. Change is needed in so many realms. The world of love and relationships deserves no less attention.

Some backwards steps were taken in the pursuit of change. Proposition 8 in California and similar legislation legislated that the lives and loves of some people are lesser than others. I am grateful for the promise of a new leader and a new year and a brand-new opportunity to rescind those changes and move two steps forward, forever ignoring those many steps back. 

Thank you. Thank you for reading and writing and listening and thinking and exchanging ideas with me. I am aware that we don't all hold the same opinions. But I do hope that we all hold the same ideals. That we all want love and joy and peace and understanding in this season and for many more in the future. Thank you for allowing this forum to be a place where change can start. 

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Discussion

seandamonn Married
Posted February 25, 2009

Jenny,
I have thoroughly enjoyed coming back again and again to your "Portrait of an Open Marriage" series on Tangomag.com. It seems the site is now remodelled, and the original version of your articles is gone. That is a real pity.
I have your book, and for that, THANK YOU.
But what I am now missing, I think, are the 249 (and counting) replies that were made to your story. They ranged from those ecstatically in favour, to the diatribe and hellfire type. And for those of us "out there", it is very salutory to be quite aware of the range of reactions that we can evoke. It becomes part of our self-knowledge. The collected replies were an essay in their own right. I had referenced those comments to various people
Love
Sean Damonn, Australia

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted February 26, 2009

Sean,
Jenny articles are still on the site as are the comments made to her articles. You can find the full line up of Jenny's articles here
http://www.yourtango.com/archive/posts-by/539

if you have any questions feel free to contact me.

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