Reports that Kate Hudson is continuing to play the field are coming fast and hard (no pun intended – ok, maybe a little). Perez Hilton posts that in a recent interview, Kate Hudson goes on to explain how much she’s enjoying her new freedom as a single woman, saying “I'm actually enjoying being single right now because I really never have been. I feel good in relationships. I enjoy them, so I feel my best when I'm in something solid. But it's also the first time I've ever taken a step back and gotten a new perspective. So, I've made a conscious decision to try to stay single as long as possible.”
You might remember that I wrote about Kate’s new discovery of singlehood earlier this month when she basically said she would go out with just about anybody. This is an interesting addendum to that earlier post because now Kate is saying that although she feels good in a relationship, she is learning to step back and get some perspective outside of a relationship. This is truthfully the definition of being single and it might be one of the wisest things I think I may have heard her say.
In order to enjoy being a single person (and you really should enjoy it), you have to look at it as your time to survey your options. It is a time where your main obligation is to learn to treat yourself well and to ensure that your life is the best that it possibly can be. I am not saying that you should not date and that you might be better alone. It might get a bit lonely at times, I will not lie. But if you look at it as a time to learn more about yourself and what you what out of your next relationship, you will be better poised to get what you seek and you will be in a better position to attract the person who will give you what you want.
As a happily single woman, I think I sometimes cause worry and concern from my friends (especially the married ones) because they really cannot conceive that someone would be just fine on their own. But I really am happy because I am building the kind of life that is built around self-contained happiness, which means that when the right person comes along, it will be like adding icing on top of an already pretty damned good cake. I’m not trying to stay single but I’m also not trying to get into a relationship. When your life is pretty good, you just don’t have the time to waste on people who endanger that happy state or cause you distress. The quality of the people I spend time with has definitely improved as a result.
So, single ladies, if you want to put a ring on it, that’s great and I wish you luck. But for those of us who just want to hang out for a while and enjoy being single, enjoy your life. You have the rest of your life to belong to someone else. Belong to yourself first.