Us Magazine reports that in the January UK Cosmopolitan, Scarlett Johansson talks openly about her new marriage to actor Ryan Reynolds. Usually a fiercely private person, she says, “This is a very beautiful time for me. Getting married is a huge moment in anyone's life, and the few months leading up to it were a little crazy…But Ryan and I are in love, and we're enjoying evolving our relationship together. I feel that my life and my work are heading in the right direction.” She and Reynolds tied the knot in a small private ceremony in Vancouver in September.
For you single ladies out there (or for those of you who are married and have single girlfriends), she goes into some detail about the failed relationships she had with men prior to meeting and marrying Ryan. The actress, who dated Jared Leto and Josh Hartnett, says that she was “in situations before where a guy hasn't been into me…It's either they don't want to commit or put in the effort, or they're too involved in their own thing…You don't always meet the right person at the right time, and I think it's important for people to figure out their own lives before involving someone else - to gauge where you are and work on your own issues.”
This is sound advice for those of us out here in Singleland. Honestly, if you keep dating people who are wrong for you, keep repeating the same patterns over and over again, or keep getting dumped it might be time for you to step back and take stock of what your own issues might be. Having a good handle on who you are and having your life in order before adding someone else to it is one of the smartest decisions you may ever make.
This is not to say your life has to be perfect but know who you are and having a good handle on what you bring to the table is the key to meeting the person who will inevitably be the best match for you. Before you figure out if he or she is “The One,” you need to be your own soulmate. That White Knight will never come if you have not come to your own rescue first.