You know that things have truly changed when MySpace will have relationship news faster than the AP wire. Starpulse reports that Lindsay Lohan is asking the paparazzi to stop asking her if she and girlfriend Samantha Ronson have broken up. The star recently wrote the following note on her MySpace blog, “[The paparazzi] should just stop asking altogether, once and for all if she and I are broken up because frankly, if we ever, ever did... I would say it before they could even think of asking... I'd say it here probably... I say everything here on MySpace. I was out with my friend Jamie and paparazzi wouldn't stop asking me where Samantha was. I'm not writing this blog because I feel like I need to prove that I'm with my girl to anyone at all. It's just annoying. And I want to vent.”
I can only imagine what that’s like for her but most of us have a touch of what that must feel like. You and your significant other are seen spending time with other people, separate during the holidays, one of you does not show for a dinner party, someone gets bored and starts a rumor that the two of you are breaking up and suddenly your inbox is flooded with “I am so sorry that you and _____ broke up” emails, your cell phone rings off the hook and if you happen to be a celebrity, eventually the blogs are going nuts with the details of your love life. It can be really annoying if the rumors are not true but it can be devastating to a relationship that might actually be in trouble. The last thing a relationship in trouble needs is to suddenly be under a microscope with people basically waiting by its virtual deathbed. The added pressure can make things much worse.
How to handle such a situation? Well, short of taking to MySpace or your own blog, usually the less you say about a situation that might be a tad intense, the more rumors will spread so replying with something like, “You know, I cannot imagine where that news came from but I promise that if something happens, you will be the first to know.” Then if something does happen, you are in control of sharing exactly how much you care to share and you can wait until you can handle telling your friends and loved ones what they need to know.
We all know how annoying it can be for your nosy friends to ask a million questions about your relationship. Imagine that multiplied by blogs, people chasing you down the street with cameras and generally anyone you come into contact with asking you deeply personal questions just because you were in a tabloid last week. There is nothing wrong with a little privacy. Protect yours and you just might protect your relationship at a time when it needs it the most.