You Might Have a Shot with Kate Hudson

OK, guys, get ready to hit on Kate Hudson.  Celebitchy reports that the actress thinks having a list of things you desire in a mate is egotistical and that she’s pretty open when it comes to dating people.  She says, “I’m not a judgmental person, if I had a checklist it would be dangerous and I would probably date nobody…I think that’s an egotistical approach and egos ruin relationships. You have to be open to everyone.”  She also says that she doesn’t have a lot of experience dating, citing only three relationships (Owen Wilson, Lance Armstrong and Dax Sheppard) since getting back in the game after she divorced her ex-husband of seven years, rocker Chris Robinson, who she married when she was only 21 years old.

So, check your ego at the door and be sure to bring the funny because you might have a shot at dating Kate Hudson.

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I do have to argue that this approach to dating does actually speak to her inexperience.  If you have no idea what you want in a mate and do not have even a slight list of do’s and don’ts, you might waste a lot of time dating people who are just wrong for you.  Having standards and some idea of what you want out of your relationships is not egotistical, it is a smart way to go about selecting a partner (I imagine this is how she wound up with Dax Sheppard. Just sayin’…).  You know the old adage “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything?” Having some specifics in mind when going out there will save you a lot of time, a considerable amount of frustration and might actually help you find someone of quality much more quickly than if you go out there and throw caution to the wind.

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There is a considerable difference between being rigid and having some standards.  If you have a list of things that you absolutely must have and they are not particularly reasonable (he must be rich, she must be a supermodel), you are setting yourself up for failure.  This is when you might relax your standards just a bit.  However, having absolutely nothing in mind when there are things that you know would make you happy (she must like my sense of humor, he should be kind and generous) is a total waste of time.  Be open-minded but don't let your brains fall out of your head.

We have a saying in the South: “Be particular.”  Kate, heed that warning.  Whether you are just getting back out there and dating after a divorce or you're out there all the time, having a list of likes and dislikes in mind when dating is very important.  If you keep those in mind when you're out there, you might actually get what you want, which is really the point of the whole exercise anyway.