The point is that while movies don't have to be siloed, sometimes it's better if they are. I know it's a lot to ask for a $150 million movie to reduce its target. The nerd herd, though largely male anyway, will support this film, if it doesn't suck. They'll see it 5 times, largely in costume, and, yeah, they'll store parts of the film in the spank bank. Big whoop, wanna fight about it? The Star Wars prequels tried to be all things to all people and Jar-Jar wasn't funny, the child Anakin Skywalker wasn't particularly adorable, no NASCAR fans orgasmed during the pod racing scene and no woman alive bought into the romance between Natalie Portman and Hayden Christensen. The Lord Of The Rings trilogy** did an impressive job of inclusiveness but stuck to the core message that this f*ckin' ring was gonna doom mankind if it didn't get flung into a lava pit on the other side of the tracks. I appear to have digressed.
The fat and skinny of the message is this: chicks like some stuff, dudes like some stuff and some stuff they naturally both like (like Friday Night Lights). It's bad form to just go forcing something if it's just not right***. Movies are a social affair, anyway. She can promise to see Star Trek with him if he sees My Life In Ruins (Nia Vardalos' follow up to My Big Fat Greek Wedding) with her without watering down the content or departing from canon. I could be off-base here, apparently the original Star Trek was considered sexy for its time and did feature the first inter-racial kiss on American TV.
*Karl Urban stars in Pathfinder and appears as the ship's doctor in the new Star Trek.
**The Lord Of The Rings books never really had a love story. Good work by Peter Jackson throwing in a subtle love-triangle without beating us over the head with it.
***Billy Joe of Green Day should be considered for Poet Laureate status.