Just when you thought us single ladies had enough to bemoan being lonely and on the hunt, a new psychological trend has annoyingly made it's way into the forefront—postnuptial depression.
Dr. Michele Gannon, a San Francisco psychologist, says there's been an upswing of newlywed couples seeking counseling for Day After The Wedding Blues. That's right, gals. Roughly 10% of the smiley couples on those wedding pages in the Sunday Times will sign up for talk therapy to help adjust to scoring the man, ring, and wedding. Who would've thunk?
Dr. Jane Greer, a New York City-based marriage and family therapist, theorized this anxiety is due to becoming a "We" instead of being the familiar "I."
A recently married woman in the Time article "Postnuptial Depression: What Happens The Day After" even compared her day after the wedding feeling to that of "buyer's remorse."
Ouch. I hope she rephrased that little nugget when her husband was within ear shot.
Of course we've all heard of the 7-year itch and the old "honeymoon phase is over" adage, but what separates this from those is the timing. These doldrums seem to appear almost immediately after the dress-fitting, well-wishing, and champagne-swilling. Brides are literally waking up, picking the rice out of their hair and wondering "what next?"
But unlike those depressing Sunday nights—a fleeting sadness the following Friday always cures—the married couples who seek help are ashamed and sort of bewildered about what to do.
As Gannon points out, some of the blues may be chemical. The feel-good hormones churned out during the first phases of love and the newness of an engagement come to a screeching halt once the reception is over. Understandably, feeling sad after a wedding isn't a predicament one overcomes many times in their life (unless you're Elizabeth Taylor).
So what to do? Not shockingly, the advice is pretty standard. Get exercise, sleep, have sex, remind yourself what a great support system marriage is, and then plan for a few parties or outing after the honeymoon.
Well, like they say, marriage isn't easy.
Cheers to being single!