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The Great V-Card Debate

Why would anyone want to have sex with a virgin? Or pay for it?

There has been a glut of virginity talk lately, on top of the howaboutthat stories regarding men and women having their v-card intact until an advanced age. Like the 36-year-old virgin blogger. Or the Albanian women who chose chastity and maidenhood so they could be the men of their houses. These stories are nowhere near as hilarious as something featuring Steve Carell. They're sad and touching and don't feature the underrated Catherine Keener in any capacity. There was even a brief Jane Austen craze in 2007. And the dubious achievement of hymen repair (or replacement).

Then Russel Brand made fun of all those tween celebs who gave their word to stop at 3rd. Plus Jonah Hill and Michael Cera pulled out all the stops to drop their cherries in last summer's breakaway hit, Superbad. There's even an off-Broadway play called My First Time that admits virgins for free. It's been overwhelming, frankly.

None of this is new, right? Before Superbad and Jane Austen, we had American Pie and Elizabeth I. For thousands of years taboo and fetish around virginity have cemented themselves in our psyches.

While male virginity is a beautiful and majestic thing (ask AC Green), it's pretty inconsequential. Sure, he may walk a little taller the next day and have a greater familiarity with certain sounds, but he's basically the same guy. (Quick aside: I was enjoying a cool pitcher of Long Island Iced Tea with some friends before ascending to manhood and wound up with every single cherry in that ewer. My compadres had a good hearty laugh at my expense. In hindsight, we were all dorks for drinking Long Island Iced Tea.)

A lady's deflowering is, evidently, a little different. Sheet soiling, mucus membranes and potential pregnancy aside, something magical must happen on that first time. Why else would we (not as a culture, but as a species) make such a big deal of it?

Obviously, a chaste lady is more likely to be disease-free and, um, narrower. Maybe some dudes feel some cuckoldry is afoot if they're going where another man has gone before. And someone schooled in feminist theory might say there's a desire amongst a large cross-section of men to infantilize their conquests. And some Eastern men have been led to believe that sex with a virgin can actually cure their own STDs (generally the AIDS).

Can you relate?

Discussion

patit888 Single
Posted September 15, 2009

I'm 23 years old and still a virgin,..my ex boyfriends wants to have sex with me but i just cant let them pop my cherries,..It's not because I'm waiting for Mr. right but its more on my psychological side...Now I'm single and i have no idea when and whom to give my virginity maybe I'll just wait and see when it would end..

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serafim_Azriel Taken Not enough sex
Posted May 27, 2009

I wish I could have sold mine off... Over a million to have your cherry popped? Not too bad. Though, I think I'd end up being picky. Then again, losing my first time was nothing special. My boyfriend at the time was a virgin too.
To be honest, I can see the attraction of wanting a virgin partner, not only for the std-free part, but if you're a bit into being the one in charge, being someone's 'sex teacher' is a nice fantasy.

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Watersisland Starting Over
Posted May 11, 2009

Oh, it has to be something special. Maybe one of the few most special moments in a young lady's life. Her first raw intimate experience. I think I would remember that more than I do loosing my own. I can't imagine any male not wanting to share that experience with the young lady that has chosen THEM. Being as careful and gentle so as to make it a very pleasant experience for her-because this one's all about her. Although it may not be the most wildest of sex experiences-it's a ONCE-IN-A-LIFETIME.

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BigAl Taken
Posted November 16, 2008

I think its the novelty. But, I personally, am with LeMaster.

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LeMaster Married I was born ready.
Posted November 15, 2008

I don't think sex with a virgin is that great.I like a more experienced woman.

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Chacha Taken
Posted November 14, 2008

If my mom told me I could earn that much $$ I would have saved it...maybe.

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Alex Complicated No nonsense about love!
Posted November 14, 2008

I know everyone's hating on these women, but our culture has rendered sex essentially meaningless, so they're thinking, why not make a profit?

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Mango Married
Posted November 14, 2008

must be the thrill. old creeps will pay for anything that gets their rocks off.

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greenolive Engaged
Posted November 12, 2008

I can't believe someone is willing to pay one of those girls $3.5 million. That's insane.

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Posted November 12, 2008

I understand where you are coming from but I don't think that "dudes" get all worked up about virgins solely because sex with one would be pleasurable (mind you I may not know as I'm not a dude). But II think it's more about purity. I think there is something very compelling for men and women alike to know that you are your partner's only partner. Does that mean women should keep their legs closed and men should keep their pants zipped until their 90? Hell no. But it's something to think about!

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