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| Can you ever get back with your Ex-Boyfriend? |
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I just got told by my long time girlfriend that she just wants to be friends and that we each need some space. The problem with that is that I will always want more. Your story sounds familiar in that you would also be in this kind of crazy limbo where you are scared of acting inappropriately and crossing the friend/lover line. Who really wants to live like that? In my case, I tried it for a few weeks and it just wasn't working. I felt like I was walking on egg shells. After a long talk with a very wise friend, I knew what I had to do - and that was to end it properly and hope that she would see that we were really meant to be together as a couple. It is a huge risk because, as it stands right now, she won't even talk to me or return any of my messages. The thing is that I really didn't see that I had any other choice. Now I just hope for the best. It is incredibly hard to make that kind of decision though. I am still wondering if I did the right thing. Best of luck to you! Adam |
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I think you should just let it go for now and see if it was meant to be, things will come together without worries. AND you dont have to change, if he did something in the past and you cannot trust him, he should be the one to make sure that he is honest and trustworthy, and gain your trust. If he doesn't do that, he is not worth it anymore. Move on with your life and take care of yourself. |
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Ok to answer your questions i think there is always hope that people can come back together. And yes you can get over anyone with time. There was this guy who i loved dearly. We met every weekend for yrs. Talked on the phone , etc. WE got very serious and things were very nice. We had some awesome times. Then right out of the blue he just stopped calling, we slipped away. I loved him very much. But i refused to be a whiner, or act needy for him. I left for Hawaii and i wasnt here 3 months and he calls. He wants me back but I wasnt ready to just up and run back. It has now been 6 yrs here and yes he still calls me daily about 10 to 20 times daily. I noticed of late he is opening up his heart speaking his mind. I am moving back so we will see, but as of right this minute he realized what he lost and wants it back and willing to do anything to get me. So have some hope if this has went on this long he was patient he must want me back pretty badly. Keeping my fingers crossed Ya never know what will happen. |
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You are the only one who can sincerely know if the relationship is worth fighting for. Make a move immediately. It's human to make a fool out of yourself when falling in love, but if you keep on doing it again and again, that's another thing. http://www.rebuildyourrelationship.com/how-to-get-your-ex-back.html |
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No one likes a super needy girl. Move on and if its meant to be, he'll come back. If not, sounds like you're better off. |
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BooBleary, you say you know you can change, but it sounds like he is the one who needs to change. You have every right not to trust him anymore. Why should you change? If he doesn't change either you're just going to be back at square one. |
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I think if you want him back you should play it cool, don't pressure him Be sexy, remind him how fun it is to be with you. There is nothing fun about someone who is anxious and constantly worried. And have some fun of your own. Remind him that he misses you too. It will also put spice back in your relationship. |
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Stop loving him? You always love people who are a part of your life. You will love again. The real question is, does he treat you right? Is he willing to put the respect into your relationship that you need to make it work. Clearly he is not. |
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Ease up. Sometimes people need time and space to think about things. Maybe that is what he is doing. They obviously have a connection, you wouldn't want to just blow something because of what you assume. |
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Give him some space. |
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Sounds like he is stringing you along so he can sleep with other women. Move on. |
Okay, my boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago. We're having a long-distance relationship. I still love him so much. He still does with me too, but not as strongly as before. We've been dating for a year and 3 months. I can never leave the good memories we had together. I just can't handle not being with him anymore... He broke up with me because he believed that I can never ever trust him again after what happened in the past. But I know that I can change, but it would take me a long time. I asked him to give it a chance, but he thinks that it's the best for the both of us.
Now we're just good friends. Like, more than bestfriends, but below girlfriend/boyfriend. He told me that he would still keep all the stuff i gave him. And also told me that he would still send me gifts, only on Christmas and Birthday. He would still do the promise he made with me. He promised me that he would come here for a visit during the summer. I really miss our relationship...
Do you think there's anymore chance to get back with him?
If not, then, is there anyway that I can stop loving him?