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SWEETIE MAY HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU OR THE RELATIONSHIP. DUMP HIM QUICK |
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SWEETIE MAYBE HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO OR YOUR RELATIONSHIP. DUMP HIM QUICK! |
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I had a relationship that was similar. He said he loved me and I think he actually did, but he would just go do stupid stuff like cheat on me with women he met online and gamble. He had some serious problems and I think it came down to a point where I realized I could stick with him and ruin myself, but try to help him or I could save myself and leave. I still think about him a lot, but I think moving on was the best thing for me. My sister made the choice to stay with her guy who did stuff like that and now she has a kid with him and he is still cheating and doing drugs. Not to be too harsh, but this is how women get caught in abusive cycles. He may love you, but you have to preserve yourself. And s**t that this can ruin you. Its ruined my sister. |
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I don't think every cheater is a jerk It happens. Statistics show that most people cheat. But that doesn't mean that being a relationship with them can't be revealing. |
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Well said, Lolita. |
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I was in a relationship with a guy who was coming out of a relationship with a married woman. I asked him about it and he said it was a closed chapter in his life. 3 months later I discovered he had been seeing her while we were still dating. And that wasn't an LDR. |
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I met my last BF when we he was dating. Yes, he cheated. But once he was with me, he never did. We didn't work for other reasons. |
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You both need to be willing to fix your relationship. He doesn't sound like he is trying. |
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I disagree with these guys. Give your BF some space. |
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Giving him space won't build trust. He needs to be transparent with her and honest with her so they can build trust again. |
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Yeah. It might be beneficial to give him some space. if you are being too needy then he will pull away no matter what you do. |
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Some problems can't be fixed. People don't change. I am sorry, I know its harsh but if you don't want to be treated like he is treating you you need to leave. It's clear from his actions that he doesn't respect you. No matter what he says, he doesn't. Otherwise he wouldn't have cheated on you. And if he did respect you, he would respect that you are uncomfortable with him being around other women and work to regain your trust. He isn't doing those things and he isn't going to. You can't fix something that doesn't want to be fixed. |
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I agree with BigAl that his actions exhibit a lack of respect for you. Knowing that who he is now is probably more or less how he will continue to be, I think it's up to you to decide whether or not that's enough to make you happy and fulfilled. Easy? No. Rewarding in the long run? Absolutely. |
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If you can't trust him why are you with him? If you want to be with him you have to find a way to trust him. |
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What if theres no way to find a way to trust him when he says hes going out with friends or talking to a girl. |
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You may enjoy spending time with him, but any guy who won't do the decent thing and let you know where you stand with him is not respecting you at all. I think there are a lot of warning signs here. 1. He treats you differently in front of his friends 2. He won't let you know where you stand 3. He has a past of untrustworthy behavior. Sounds like you have every right to be worried. |
We've been dating for 1 year and 3 months now. And we're having an LDR. But he has been 2-timing me so many times. What should I do about that? He always tells me that he loves me so much, and that he would love no one else as much as he loves me.
After all the lies he's been doing, I get so confused if he seriously does still love me or not. I mean, if he really did love me, he wouldn't be lying to me about these stuff. I just really want him to be honest with me. What should I do to make him understand that?
I love him so much. And I can never end this relationship. There was once when he broke up with me, but a couple hours later we got back together because we can't stand being apart from each other. I really don't want to lose him.
And also, he knows that I have negative thoughts about him being around with other girls. He still tends to put random girls names on his MSN name. And I really can't help it. I would always ask him who they are, and all he'd say is "A friend." After that, I told him what I think about it, then all of a sudden he gets mad. Now we're not talking anymore, and it has been 2 days now.
What should I do?!