Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas Calls It Off

Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas Calls It Off

Jilted ex Jesse Csincsak takes to their website to share his grief.

For those of you who watch ABC’s The Bachelor and its female equivalent, The Bachelorette, you know there might be a bit of a curse on engagements from the show and it appears that it’s decided to rear its ugly head. Us magazine reported that the most recent Bachelorette, DeAnna Pappas has broken up with her chosen mate from the show, now ex-fiancee snowboarder Jesse Csincsak.  The jilted Csincsak took to the couple’s website in an obviously dejected and broken-hearted effort to give the guy's take on the whole thing: “DeAnna broke up with me two days ago, and I just wanted to come on here and tell you guys face-to-face." Jesse goes on to say, “She's a great person, but she wasn’t willing to try anymore.  She wanted something different. The answer I got was, 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you.'”  The video ends shortly thereafter. E! News reports that Pappas will donate her Tacori ring to charity. 

This is sad news but not entirely unexpected.  Anyone who has kept up with the two shows knows the success rate for any of the folks who have been on the show is positively dismal.  With the exception of Trista Wren and Ryan Sutter from the first season of The Bachelorette and Byron Velvick and Mary Delgado from Season 6 of The Bachelor, every couple united on that show has taken the final train to Splitsville.

Is it a curse or is it just that it’s a little hard to force-feed people to each other as soul mates?  Look, think of it like any other contained situation: the cute kid you had a crush on at summer camp, the person you were obsessed about and finally dated in school, or a too-close-for-comfort working situation that sparks a hot and heavy office relationship.  When faced with forced contact over a long period of time, maybe these people develop feelings for each other in a fishbowl, only to have them tested and fail when they step out into the big world with more options, work and life conflicts or just a good old fashioned realization that it was nice while it lasted but it’s over.

I feel sorry for Jesse (the “I’ve-been-crying” eyes in the video were sad and pathetic enough to illicit an “aww” from me) but honestly, this kind of thing happens all the time.  Whether it’s an inter-office romance or a made-for-television romance, sometimes things weren’t meant to last.  Although, I’m not sure how cool it is to announce being dumped via your own Website.  That’s kinda weak, no matter how heartbroken you are.

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