Who Keeps The Ring?
The Lovefeed muses on what happens to the ring after a broken engagement.
What happens to the ring after a broken engagement? Do you keep it? Give it back? If you give it back, should he give you something in return? What if it's an heirloom? So many questions... but LoveFeed has the answers.
Discussion
Heres a thought...maybe the guy doesn't want it back. While I haven't gotten to the point of proposing I've gotten some ex's some pricey things, which some have tried to give back. I know I'm only one guy speaking on this, so I'll speak for myself, but if I got my SO something, even if its as symbolic and costly as an engagement ring, I bought it as a gift. I don't want it back. For me, taking it back completely negates the reason that I gave her that gift, and just because the engagment or the relationship is broken off doesn't mean the reason I got her that gift is invalid. I don't care what she does with it after, but it was bought for her and is hers to do with as she pleases. I don't care for the idea of conditional gift giving...it goes against the nature of what a gift is. An engagment ring is no more than a symbolic gift of a proposal for spending the rest of our lives together. The ring doesn't validate that proposal. At least thats my take.
Now if this was some sort of family heirloom, my mother's wedding ring, something of that nature, then she better give me that damn thing back!
It depends on if the engagement is just on hold or you guys are totally breaking up.
WHO CARES ABOUT THE RING. THIS IS WHAT YOU DO LADIES IF YOU ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION. GIVE HIM THE RING BACK. THATS RIGHT I SAID GIVE BACK THE RING . BUT YOU KEEP THE DIAMOND AND PUT IN A CZ SOME MEN ARE SO STUPID THEY WOULD NOT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE. THAT IS WHAT I DID 13 YEARS AGO.IF HE DOES FIGURE OUT THAT IT IS A CZ THEN TELL HIM THAT IS THE RING YOU BOUGHT.
All you care about is money. It's not about money, it's about sending a message. Everything burns.
the laws of chivalry that a man had to follow
the sort of thing like opening a door for a chick and pulling out their chair
technically if guys give girls a gift they're not supposed to ask for it back
So if the woman breaks it off should she give the ring back? By keeping the ring and refusing to return it be a sign of possible reconciliation ?
Yes, she should give the ring back.
By keeping the ring you are saying either:
1. You hope for a reconciliation- you are really not serious about breaking it off
OR
2. You are just being a "horses fanny" and you are just a greedy money grubbing woman
Karma really does come around- don't put yourself in the firing zone- do the right thing.
