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Beating Is Cheating? Seriously?

Are they serious? Is masturbating infidelity?

While we'll probably never know what's up with David Duchovny's addictions or predilections (though someone should have guessed from his involvement with Red Shoe Diaries and Californication), his situation has really effed some things up for dudes. Guys won't ever get the benefit of the doubt again when someone walks in on them using the computer and hears them say, "oh my God, this isn't what it looks like," even if they're just blogging about Star Wars (not the sci-fi story but the Strategic Defense Initiative). Meanwhile, my friend Emma just updated her Facebook with plans to beat it to Gillian Anderson tonight. That sounds about right.

Hey if you're in the New York Area and want to see me get grilled by Liz Tuccillo (co-author of He's Just Not That Into You), hit up the 92nd Street Y (in Tribeca) at 8 PM tonight (October 23rd).

Because we love things that are hilarious, check out the video for "David Duchovny Why Won't You Love Me?" from Bree Sharp (not his wang). Sorry about the video quality, pick up your game YouTubers.

 

Can you relate?

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Little Lamb Taken madly in love
Posted March 25, 2009

I just know my man does not want me using my vibrator without him around. However, he can barely keep up with me sexually, so I would be a little upset if he masturbated.

If it weren't for missing out on sex, I would just want him to be open about it, and then it would be okay with me.

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted March 26, 2009

Does he think that's cheating?

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Posted January 27, 2009

It's only cheating if when you do it you're thinking of someone other than your husband, wife, or mate. Like in recalling a sexual encounter with someone other than your current partner. Now that's the truth RUTH, and that's a fact JACK!

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Posted November 7, 2008

I'd rather my partner "beat it" than reallly cheat. ALthough if he neeeeeds to do either (and you aren't in a long distance relationship, or anything!), then something is clearly wrong with the relationship.

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greenolive Engaged
Posted November 5, 2008

cheating is when you'd rather be doing it by yourself than with your partner. not including him/her is cheating!

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Miss Polyamory Complicated
Posted October 30, 2008

Very interesting. To me, cheating is breaking a rule or agreement that the lovers agreed on. xo

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Lolita Single It all feels good.
Posted October 25, 2008

why do we even care? masturbation is not about you, its about the sex.

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pgmar Loving, thoughtful, committed, fun!
Posted October 24, 2008

I've learned that asking a man to stop daydreaming about sex and masturbating is like asking a dog not to scratch at fleas behind its ears. It's unusual if not cruel and we know what that constitutes.

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LeMaster Married I was born ready.
Posted October 29, 2008

lol people fantasize sometimes, its normal. And it is cruel to expect to be in someone's thoughts 24/7/365.

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Mango Married
Posted October 24, 2008

I don't like the thought of my husband thinking of someone else while masturbating or even with me.

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BigAl Taken
Posted October 24, 2008

So its cheating if it interferes with the relationship? How do you define interferring with the relationship?

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Chacha Taken
Posted October 24, 2008

That sounds like Bill Clinton asking the definition of "is"...

C'mon...sexy stuff in a room with someone NOT your mate=trouble. Not a hard equation.

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