When Aunt Flo's In Town
Do you hide your period from your guy?
Your period: do you hide it from your boy or not? Jezebel asks the tough questions:
...there's one final frontier of unpleasantness that means you're really close: changing your pads and tampons in front of your boyfriend. (I say "boyfriend," because I'm assuming this isn't as much of an issue in lesbian relationships.) Some guys are apparently squeamish about this sort of thing, probably the same ones who are weird about period sex. But can you really have a lasting relationship with someone if you have to hide bloody cotton from them?
No, you can't. At least that's been my experience! Men who're squeamish about period stuff ascribe to the "porcelain doll" theory of womanhood: we wear makeup all the time, our armpits don't sweat and nothing happens "down there" unrelated to fooling around. Fertile women bleed (unless you skip your period on purpose), it's a beautiful life process, but some men just think it's dirty, icky and embarrassing! These are probably the same guys who'll be too red-faced to run to the store for you and pick up a box of tampons (and that emergency box of Mallomars).
Of course, a guy doesn't need to see your period moments at all, you could boot him out of the bathroom for 30 seconds of privacy. I'm sure he would be happy to oblige. But knowing you and your boy are, in fact, that close is truly a comforting thought. It sounds silly to admit, but I almost want to do "bathroom stuff" in front of a guy to confirm that he really likes mesince if he doesn't like me, he'll probably get all hinky and uncomfortable.
Is it unfair to make that a litmus test? I don't think so. Two people who barely know each other sleep together all the time, but showering, shaving (face or legs or whatever), or pulling out a tampon in front of another person? That's intimate. Sisters do that, roommates do that, couples do that.
What do you think, is dealing with your period in front of a guy a sign of true intimacy?
Discussion
Okjdon't have a problem with this subject. If she needs me to go to store or such, Ok. Hey she picks up our things too, so fair trade off. As for the insertion and removal of tampons, think that's better off left to her. for one thing removal could and often is messy, I'm sure she wouldn't like it if in pulling it out I dribbled it over her clean legs. ( I just took a shower an hour ago !!) and the insertion could be tricky. ( aw honey can you spread a little more and lean back, yeah back some more, bit more, aw there it's in, opps lost that little white string, ) yes she has come in and plopped down and done out and in while i was using sink, but lets face it, that's something women are way better at. ( aw honey would you check my prostrate, great it's small thanks, )
i think its a great test and one i would readily take. if jezebel wants me to prove it meet me on your period and i will show you how i feel. i will do your pad and tampon changes for you and would love to watch you do them too. sharing intimate things like that is to me great fun as well as sexy.
It is a normal thing and most guys don't really care about the mess, they are really more interested in the access point. And will do anything to gain access. Me, I love period sex. I buy my wife her supplies and love to watch the other females in line when I put a huge box of tampons on the belt at Wal-Mart.
My wife could live without period sex and thinks it is gross, but by watching the calandar, I can keep my nick-name (Rednose).
No joke when i first started dating my hubby he made me hide the tampons in his house. I guess he didn't want anyone thinking they were his?
Okay that is disgusting. I don't pull my tampons out in front of my sister or roommates. It's not a sign of intimacy to me. For pete's sake, couples don't have to do everything together or else people would build two toilets next to each other in the bathroom. good gracious, can there be ANY type of mystery left in a relationship?
a period may not be the most pleasant thing but everyone does it. everyone poops but its not like you're hiding the tissue and denying that it happens. its definitely a good sign... gross or not, my boyfriend still goes down on me, because he wants to and its just another natural bodily fluid. i know that will make a lot of people squeamish, but be openminded! i'd never even had sex on my period before him, despite my age and several boyfriends before and would only admit that i was even on the rag when hard pressed... oh well, things change, you grow up, so does your boyfriend
I tend to disagree with the author. Periods are part of the beautiful life process etc...but they're still gross. Why would you want to change tampons in front of your boyfriend or husband, no matter how close you are to him, isn't that just yuck? Even if my boyfriend wouldn't mind, I sure would, and would send him away for some privacy. You don't poo and pee in front of them do you? I think this is in the same boat. I'd much rather oblige to the thought that we are pretty, wonderful-smelling porcelain dolls.
