Why Women Can't Cheat (and Men Can)
The John Edwards scandal shows how infidelity is easier for men.
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In a Newsweek article that ran earlier this year, Tina Brown wrote, "in the relentless youth culture of the early 21st century, if you are 50 and female, the novel that's being written on your forehead every day is 'Invisible Woman.'" She was writing about Hillary Clinton's female supporters but her observation applies to any aging woman--even Christy Brinkley. At fifty-five, John Edwards is seen as an unmitigated hunk, while Brinkley, younger by a year (and the victim of a cheating husband), is a woman who looks really good for her age. (Seriously, Google "Christy Brinkley looks good for her age," then do the same for Edwards. There are no hits for the latter.)
Married women with kids are also less likely to cheat because they're invested in their children's lives and don't want to be the ones to tell the kids mommy and daddy are breaking up. As anthropologist Helen Fisher told Good Morning America, moms have "networks in the community, children, memories much more than the adultery." And, if they are a stay-at-home moms or have scaled back their career to benefit the couples' home life, being single again means entering a job market they've lost touch with. Silda Spitzer, for one, parked her high-powered lawyer career to help her husband's and to raise their children. Elizabeth Edwards is also "retired." So when she said, "when the door closes behind [John], he has his family waiting for him," what should have come next is –because I have no other options.
The fact that men tend to cheat for sex (or "ego" as Edwards put it) rather than relationship dissatisfaction, coupled with the extra time and access to cheaters resources makes it easy for men to cheat. Is this an excuse? No way. But as long as women spend more time at home and lose their sex appeal as they age they'll end up do a better job of keeping their pants on – even if they don't want to.
Discussion
This is such a weird story. The young women who cheat on faithful guys are seen as a good thing; faithful women are just "naive." Women who stay home and are cheated on are seen as victims who only stand by their husband because they're stuck - although both Mrs. Edwards and Mrs. Spitzer are probably rich enough to leave if they really wanted to. And the conclusion of the article is that women will be "stuck" being faithful so long as they do more of the child care and "lose their sex appeal as they age."
There's nothing good about cheating. We shouldn't cheer when women are dishonest and unfaithful just because some men are.
And of course the really odd thing - all those men were cheating with women. The women they slept with are cheaters, too, even if they weren't cheating on husbands of their own. Hunter was a cheater of the worst kind; she seems to have wanted to break up the marriage.
women are jus like men they cheat n lie same way because we are all human.the only thing is that man r the one who normaly have more than one sex partners.
