Ellen Fein, author of the 1995 juggernaut The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, got married for the second time this weekend. (The first marriage ended in 2000, just as she the second Rules book came out, the one that promised "Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work." But nevermind.)
The year after her divorce Fein went to a summer camp for singles where she met Lance Houpt, her future husband. The two connected as businesspeople; Fein is a best-selling author and Houpt owns two "decorative fabric and wallcovering companies."
Fein ignored Houpt because she liked him. "I would never have initiated it, never in my life," she told the paper.
She was flirty, but not desperate. According to the Times, the rules say women should be like a "summer breeze," not a tornado.Â "Ellen was light and breezy," confirmed Houpt.
She didn't call him. "I knew I liked him," explained Fein, "but if he didn’t call me, I was perfectly capable of losing interest in him."