What Do You Do When Your Friends Hate Your Man?
When the friends don't get along with the boyfriend, things rarely resolve neatly.
So what are women supposed to do with the grudges that develop? Kate's best friend just swallows it. "My best friend hates my sort-of-boyfriend. But whenever she sees him she acts like she's his best friend, because she knows it will make me comfortable," says Kate.
Allison possesses a similar, laissez-faire approach to her friends' relationship choices, even though she's been burned before: "I ultimately think that it's up to us to know who we are and what works best for us... which is why even with friends whose choices I disagree with... I recognize that it's about what they need or what they are attracted to and it's none of my business unless they are in danger in some way..."
And so it went in Sex and the City: The Movie. Despite their dislike of Mr. Big, Carrie's friends support her choice. After all, it's hard to dislike a man who builds you a shoe closet.
Discussion
My friend/roommate might consider me a toxic friend but I'd rather think of myself as looking out for her best interests. I live with my best friend, and when her boyfriend moved in, things got way out of control. She had no time for me or girls night out and the living room/office attached to her bedroom was suddenly off-limits thanks to their "quiet time" together. But I put up with it because I love my friend, and I kept putting up with it until her then-fiance started trying to climb into bed with me while she was at work. I flipped out, told my friend and he was kicked out. And now he's back, they're "working on things" (it looks like the same relationship to me, minus the creepy attention so far) and if I say one word about him, I'm a heinous bitch and he's the victim.
