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Romance On A Budget

Cheap dates that keep love alive.

If Hollywood is to be believed, dating is a grandiose practice replete with lavish meals, fine wines, and front-row seats to the Broadway show (or opera or concert or art opening) of the season. For those of us who don't make millions, though, such refined romance is just that: the stuff of movies.

Living on a budget doesn't mean you have to sacrifice romance—just change how you envisage it. All that stuff Richard Gere and Julia Roberts do is quite nice, of course; but romance, which is simply the passionate affection that lovers feel for each other, can grow over steak au poivre in a fancy French bistro or a strawberries and sandwiches picnic in the park. What matters is not the money behind a rendezvous but the authentic desire to treat your special someone to something, well, special.

But we also recognize that you probably don't have time to reconceptualize the world around you and uncover romance where you least expect it. Luckily, YourTango exists for just that purpose. We've come up with dozens of one-off ideas that will foster romance with your special someone—without burning a hole in your pocket.

Find the Freebies. You can mimic that Hollywood-style date—for free—if you just know where to look. Check out your local arts weekly, for example. Parks often feature free music and theater series during the summer. You and your man can sway together to the sounds of a soul singer at a sunset concert in the park, or snuggle as you watch the repertoire theater's Saturday afternoon performance of A Streetcar Named Desire. Museums and galleries, too, host monthly open houses, which frequently include romance-inducing glasses of wine and high-end hors devours. And by getting dressed up to attend cultural events, you'll make the night feel special and distinctive, a million-dollar evening (and you're the only one who has to know it was free).

Aside from actual organized activities, many everyday events are free or low-cost and highly romantic—you just may never have thought of them that way. Coastal cities often have commuter ferries that, when reinterpreted, make for fresh and novel dates. Catch one—it doesn't matter where it goes—and watch the city fade into the distance, as the boat's wake bubbles behind you and seagulls fly above. What's more romantic than an afternoon at sea?

Views are free, too. Take your man, a large pizza, and a bottle of wine to a place where you can see the skyline, valley, plains, mountains or whatever is most beautiful in your area. Gazing at the vastness of the world around you will create an intimate and unique atmosphere that is just right for romance. 

A Special Place for a Special Person. Anywhere can be romantic when imbued with the right meaning. Show your special someone a spot significant to you: the dock where you had your first kiss, the quiet garden you go when you need to think, the hole-in-the-wall Italian restaurant whose family of owners always make you feel at home. It doesn't have to be fancy, the place you choose—just special to you. We guarantee it'll feel special to your special person, too.

Can you relate?

Discussion

Posted February 12, 2009

I agree with the others- I am tired of all of these "on a budget" articles. How about just featuring really cool, amazing things that people can do- regardless of budget. When times are tough- we want to hear about AMAZING things, not taking your date to a Chinese restaurant so that you can get free cheap wine. How depressing!

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted February 12, 2009

Because, I don't know about you, but the recession cost me a job and I'm broke. So bring on the budget articles!!

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BigAl Taken
Posted October 24, 2008

I think you guys are missing the point. Giving gifts and doing things together (yes, those things that COST $$) is a way of showing someone you care. Staying in and watching a movie all the time just says, "you're not worth it."

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Chacha Taken
Posted October 24, 2008

At the risk of sounding like a consumer, I kinda agree. It's a big deal to spend $ on someone, so I really appreciate it when it happens.

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esther 31 Engaged In love and engaged.
Posted October 24, 2008

gifts are too easy! i want my husband to show me he loves me, not spend money on some gift.

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Kevin Married Getting complicated
Posted October 24, 2008

Date nights are important. But you can keep it simple. Why not just go out for dessert and coffee? The important thing is that you are together. If you are with someone who needs to be pampered and go out on expensive dates and that irks you, then you are with the wrong person.

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ProudMary Starting Over
Posted October 23, 2008

It's important to at least have a date night. my ex never wanted date night. Not even drink some wine and watch a movie, he was always on the computer or something.

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Seaman Single
Posted October 23, 2008

My old GF used to make homemade pizza on friday nights. That was awesome. BUt she was just cheap.

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