Wife Wants A Threesome

Dan: Before Karen so much as makes out with her girlfriend again, she needs to have a long heart-to-heart with her husband. The two of them are obviously not communicating with each other. They need to lay it all on the line. They need to decide what they're comfortable with as far as their sex life goes. Bottom line: Karen has to be honest with her husband about what she wants. She can't keep pussy-footing around the situation forever, or eventually someone is bound to explode!

Carrie:: We know the wife wants spontaneity—or so she says—while the husband wants more control. I think they can find an element of both by trying out adult dating sites, like AdultFriendFinder.com. That way, there will still be some element of surprise, but both Karen and her husband can be in control by selecting a girl together, and by laying out any ground rules they may have.

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They might also consider trying a few swingers clubs. Most of these places are no-pressure clubs, and considering the husband has been hurt in the past, it might not be a bad idea to get started a little slower this time around. By going this route, they can be sure nobody's getting hurt in the process.

Many couples interested in swinging start out by just making out with someone else together. Slowly, they might work their way up to having sex with this other person. And eventually, they may even move towards a relationship.

But if these two really do love each other, like Karen says, and if they really do have a great sex life together, like Karen says, then there's absolutely no reason they should feel the need to rush into anything.

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