How to Pleasure Yourself: Self Pleasure Tips for Beginners

So how you should rub? Try making circles around your clit. Draw the number eight around your vulva. Test out the alphabet. Use your hand like a paintbrush. Play with the shaft of your clit (check it out, just massage the clitoral hood to find it). Tap on your clit as you get closer to orgasm. Squeeze and release your PC (AKA kegel) muscles. Set the mood, listen to music, light candles, dress in something silky. Take your time. Try the shower head, or position yourself under the running water from the tub's faucet.

You can always use a sex toy. A vibrator has given loads of women their first orgasms, and vibration on your clitoris can feel spectacular. Sex toys that buzz will not make it more difficult for you to achieve great sex with a partner; in fact it can make it easier. A vibe is a great teacher tool, as are curved dildos and butt plugs. However, if you’re afraid a vibrator will desensitize your clitoris, simply stop using it and go back to your own Jackson Five.

Lube can help too. Lots of vaginas self-lubricate, but not all, and even the ones that do don't do it all the time. Women need more lube depending on the time of the month or if they're on anti-depressants or birth control. Plus, your clit and bum don’t self-lubricate, so if you're playing with them when you masturbate it's nice (or in the case of the ass, necessary) to add lube. It will make the task at hand go way smoother.

There are so many ways to twist, flick, massage and love yourself, so don't limit your options or your escapades to just one way all the time. The more you learn about yourself, the more you can share. If you're in a relationship, masturbate with your partner, it's not only hot to watch each other show some self-love, but it will add a lot to your partner sex. So get down with you sexy self and celebrate the love.