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When raising concerns subtly or via withhold excitement about our friends' mates is NOT JEALOUSLY! I'm 31 and have lived in Washington, DC for 13 years. I have seen many friends with and without college, graduate degrees from home (Cleveland) and DC date and marry men they date and marry are TOTALLY underneath them. Those of us holding our concerns are NOT jealous. If you are a friend to someone, why on earth would you be jealous! I much prefer to hear good news - not bad - from my women (not girl) friends - whether about their families, work, or boyfriends! With bad news, I feel obligated to give advice and worry they won't take it. With good news, I can add them to my list of those having admirable traits I lack! Women should listen to their women friends more - and get an astorlogical compatibly test! Check out cafeastrology's astro compatibility - it's great! http://astro.cafeastrology.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f |
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just don't mix your worlds. like on seinfeld! a george divided against himself cannot stand. |
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Girlfriends are sometimes really controlling. If your friends are getting between you and your boyfriend you need new friends. You should have friends who are happy for you. |
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usually it's me that hates my boyfriend, not my friends. that's normal, right? |
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Sounds like you need either new friends or a new boyfriend! |
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Funny how love is blind and hindsight is 20/20.... usually when your friends hate your boyfriend, they have good reason to! Although it's sometimes hard to tell whether your friends honestly see flaws in the guy you are dating... or if they are just jealous. Has anyone experienced this? |
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You make a good point, Liz. It's hard to get objective opinion from friends sometimes. I think those who can give you their unbiased opinions are the keepers though, agreed? |
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Someone wise once told me to be very cautious about accepting what friends think of your man. This is so true because often they're jealous and don't want to lose spending time with you. But, if they immediately pick up on things about him that I also question... it helps to know. Generally though, I no longer listen to friends' opinions! |
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My friends used to constantly complain about my boyfriend. They said that he was controlling and wouldn't ever let me hang out with them. Unfortunately, I could only see the wonderful things about him. I guess I liked him so much that I didn't want to admit that he had flaws. Finally, after all of my friends started to disappear, I began to get angry at him for taking me away from them. That's when the flaws came out. Turns out they were right--he was controlling. I also started to notice physical stuff! He had a particular scent, and also dressed like a gym teacher! Finally I dumped his sorry ass! |
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I hated a friends boyfriend because he cheated on her like three times and she stayed with him. That is a good reason not to like a friend's BF. |
You think he's great, but your friends disagree. What do you do when your friends hate your boyfriend? Do you tell them to deal and move forward? Do you dump him? Have you been in this situation? Share your stories and advice.