The Female "Happy Ending" Massage
Satisfaction guaranteed? One writer finds out, firsthand.
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Chances are you've heard the story: an unmarked door leads to a dimly-lit massage parlor where women with strong hands and tolerant smiles await a train of libidinous male patrons. The "happy ending" tale is all too common, a mixture of truth and urban legend that captivates male imaginations even in an age of casual sex and unlimited Internet porn. Read: Does Casual Sex Screw Up Emotional Intimacy?
"It's always a certain type of place," said Brian, a 41-year-old screenwriter who admits to visiting the odd "men's spa" or two (though never, of course, for that). "You go for a reason, and you know what you're getting when you walk in the door."
The rest of spa culture, meanwhile, is dominated by women. There are more than 14,000 spas in the U.S. bringing in around $10 billion in annual revenue, and their predominantly female clientele average more than 100 million visits per year. With all that time spent around low lighting, soft music, and heavy rubbing, it can be tough not to think of sex. But until recently, the female version of "happy endings" has remained doggedly taboo.
Luckily, any "rules" restricting female sexuality are dying as fast as Sex and the City repeats can slay them, and it was only a matter of time before women embraced the notion that "quick releases" aren't just for men. And with competition among spas getting ever more intense, customers are starting to demand more than just Enya and free herbal tea with their Shiatsu, according to massage therapists. "It's such a well-known thing for guys, and women are finally getting more comfortable asking for it," said Anna, a self-described "massage healer" who has worked at several upscale spas and performed happy endings on female customers. (Names have been changed to protect the less-than-innocent.) "Women are finally getting comfortable with the idea that it's ok to feel erotic in what's already a really erotic setting."
The bottom line: We like massages and we like orgasms, so why shouldn't the two sometimes, er, come hand in hand? Read: The Hands-Free Orgasm
Discussion
Quite frankly, if I wanted to be a whore, I wouldn't have gone to school for 2 years to be a massage therapist...
What a f'ing joke ... It's articles like this in the media that perpetuate the myths and the moronic attitudes of the general public and make the profession a joke in the United States. And for the "therapists" who perform the "happy endings" - you'd make more money pimping yourselves out and at least being honest about it. Hiding behind the guise of massage therapy is cowardly, and for those of us who are actually very well educated and conscientious health care professionals, it would make our lives much simpler and safer that we didn't have to screen the perverts, they'd know in advance to go to you.
If you want to get your rocks off, hire a prostitute, have a one-night stand, get a f*** buddy, or get a vibrator and do-it-yourself, Please... anyone who comes to my clinic and asks for a happy ending won't be so happy when I call the cops and get them charged with harassment or substitute a knuckle sandwich instead ...
I found alot of these comments interesting. Particularly as I have been thinking about using one of these services, one website I have come across that has appealed to me the most has been www.pearllondon.co.uk there website alone was abit of a turn on, but in the classiest of ways, the women look like supermodels, and it seems like the most professional company by far????
I was a physical therapist in my college days (to make money for tuition!) and recall a lot of this pretty well.
Women would come in for various reasons, and some would want a bit more than just P/T.
One I can recall, when I asked her to please put on a hospital gown, said she would like to change clothes while I was still there just in case she needed help. She was only about 35 and didn't need any help.
When she stated most of her pain was in her thighs, I started to put a machine on her there and she said, "I think a regular hand massage would work better," so I started that and she adjusted her position to show me a bit more than was necessary with the gown on.
I finally asked her, "What would you actually like?" and she opened her gown to show me her full torso, saying something like, "See anything you think needs attention?" With that, her nipples were fully erect and she was turned on for some reason, although I didn't do anything.
I must admit she was the recipient of a full-on sensual massage, and not by design. She shook and her body stiffened when she evidently had her orgasm, and she grabbed my hand to pull it harder to her, but I was so afraid the manager would walk in on us, I was a wreck.
This lady actually grabbed for my belt, asking if I could "help her" participate in this fantasy, but thankfully I didn't. Not the manager, but another customer knocked on the door asking if we were finally finished, as she'd been waiting half an hour. All I could answer was, "Just another minute" as I asked my customer to please get dressed while I re-dressed the table.
OMG. OK here is one more LMT from Vegas to weigh in.
First of all, alot of you need to reach down & pull that stick out of your ass. Is it really that hard for you to see how someone can get aroused during a massage? Its so common in fact that we talked about it in massage school. Big deal. And guess what, it's a natural physiological phenomenon.
Second, if you are a LMT and you live in podunk USA, then maybe I can see why you get your panties in such a bunch. But if not then reach down and pull that stick out of your ass. If you work in a resort town such as I do then you should realize that people come from all over the world from different cultures to have a good time and don't always know what the laws and customs are. Take Las Vegas for example. People know prositution is legal in Nevada, where Las Vegas is, end of story. But what those same people, even people who live in the states don't know it is illegal in Clark County. So what, big deal you just tell them what the score really is. Be the goddamned professional you claim to be.
Third, if you are an LMT then why are you so hypocritical? You want to be treated differently then sex workers and more like doctors? Then why is there so much stigma associated with the breasts? Symetrical adipose tissue with moles. Big f'in deal. If all we are doing is soft tissue manipulation then why do we not work on the breasts? Can you imagine if you found a lump & asked your doctor about it and they said "I'm sorry but I am not a sex worker!" then left the room in a huff?
Lastly, for anyone who does want a happy ending please don't try any of the b.s. that has been posted. Do you think men have been getting happy endings by going to upscale spas and moaning at the right time, or by wearing sexy panties, or any other "subtle" signs? Really? Let me tell you what I think. I think its kinda like that SATC episode where at first she blows it off, but at some point women do start to consider a happy ending in the right circumstances, in that case it was when she saw the LMT. Now as in the episode subtle moaning DID NOT WORK. So if you really wanted to go for it, then youll have to go for broke. Move the sheet to expose yourself, or start touching yourself. Or say your hand is getting tired. But wearing sexy underwear and moaning won't get you very far. Of course at that point you are risking having the session terminated early (and you would still be charged in full but thats kinda a dick thing to do. Most likely you will be warned if nothing is going to happen.) Now here's the problem- a guy used to work where I do, and nobody knows exactly what really happened except that he was fired, but rumor has it he was getting these so called "subtle signs" from this girl and may or may not have gone too far up her leg. She never said anything to him during or after the massage. Aparently told her friend back in the locker room and her friend convinced her to complain to management ( most likely they were looking to get free or discounted services, if it even happened at all. ) Do you really think anyone is going to put their livelyhood on the line to have you go back and blab to your friends so you can ruin their life? Not me.
I'm an LMT and while I don't perform "service" in topic in general (basically b/c no one has courage to ask - I treat everyone as a mature adult and feel they should be aware what may be good for them)- I do suggest they perform on their own or with partner because of the MANY benefits of reaching a g-Spot O! Read link below - I believe much of it is valid for therapeutic purposes! If you're a mature adult, just ask your therapist - it is their decision whether to help or not. Remember also, everything inside massage room is strictly confidential and does not leave the room! Good luck!
I just cant get over this its sooo sick sexual things are very sacred and intimate and should only be done when your in love and with a trusting and loving and protective partner that cares about you and makes you feel comfortable and is gentle with you. Some of you are okay with having some stranger see you naked and getting touched in a very intimate sacred place you all need to rethink at least some of you that have had this done, how you conduct yourselves! if your addicted to sex then go get some help for that.
and furthermore orgasms are intimate and should only be between you and your partner no one wants to know about you having one only a special partner should be giving you one and they want to see your enjoying them and all the side effects you make when your aroused not some random massage person thats going to lose their license because of you! I hope these nasty massage things get found out and shut down very soooon.
can I just say that I find this disgusting! Women are always blaming men for being pigs but look what some women are doing? Hello massages are meant to be just that massages back arms legs that type of thing your not supposed to get off from them do people not have any self control and self respect anymore? They are professionals not freaking prostitutes if someone wants to get off find a man and be in a good relationship dont be giving it up to just some random person at a massage place. I swear their are some nasty women out there everything is not all about sex already. Aren't people uncomfortable with some stranger seeing them naked and performing such acts? Those type of acts such as heavy petting and rubbing down there should be special and sacred and only your partner should be doing that do you women not care about other people? I would be so disgusted if my boyfriend said he went out for a massage and said some woman rubbed his penis and gave him an orgasm and they made out on the table thats sick! You are all sick end of story. They could lose their license from your stupid demands if you all are just disgustingly obsessed with orgasms get into a relationship or go do prostitution somewhere because you have no self respect.
Fantastic article! We really should be able to talk about this and come to an understanding that people like to receive massages in this fashion and at the same time respect the Massage Therapists that don't want to perform any type of sensual massages. I just got back from Las Vegas and was referred by higher end spa in the Aladdin to a spa that did happyendings, think the website was http://www.lasvegasmassage.pro/. All I can say is when I was there I was treated like a regular customer and how I would have been treated in any other spa in Las Vegas, that's the way it should be.
The whole problem here by the sounds of it is that 'prostitution' is illegal in most or a lot of areas in the US. In Sydney, Australia prostitution is legal and there are many establishments that specialise in 'Rub and tug' or erotic massages where you get a 'happy ending' if you wish. Why else would you go there if not for that??? Anyway the problem you masseuses have is that you are worried that you will now be affiliated with prostitution because of the 'rub and tug' practices that go on.
Since it is legal here in Sydney, Australia you don't need to try to figure out if your remedial massage place will give you a happy ending with the wink of the eye or if you give them the secret hand signal. You just go to the Erotic Massage venue where you know what you're getting and you pay for it.
Now for all you moralists out there, if you think this is wrong and that it is disgusting the answer is simple. Don't go to them! I don't have any problems with this and I myself being male have started going to them. Not because I'm perverted, but because I have a need which isn't purely sexual. Don't get me wrong, I love the happy ending but I also need the sensual touch of a woman and the closest easiest way to feeling loved at the moment. You can insult me all you like, call me pathetic and what ever but I'm just being honest. I'm in an unhappy marriage and have a need in a very low point in my life which I won't go into.
Just to dispel some myths, the women that work in these establishments I go to are not what you think. They are very intelligent women, absolutely stunning bodies and beautiful faces, university educated, elegant and have the sweetest personalities. They are like every other normal person that has day to day problems and are struggling with life like the rest of us. They deserve respect and I definitely treat them with the highest respect. I feel so lucky to have the chance to be touched by these beautiful women and it does make me angry if anyone does treat them with disrespect.
The girls in these establishments may or may not have a massage qualification but they do get trained by the establishment on the sensual art of erotic massage, and they are definitely good at what they do.
I too know how to give massages even though I have not been formally trained and do not formally have a qualification. I actually gave my regular masseuse a massage back last week as a thankyou and she nearly fell asleep. To answer any questions, I did not give her any finger release or any erotic massage of any kind. It was completely a professional and therapeutic massage. She actually recommended that I should work as a erotic masseuse especially for women. I explained that I would if I was single but I'm not so I can't.
Funnily enough this organisation caters for women and couples as well. Meaning women or couples can come in and get massaged by one of the ladies with a happy ending as well. Yes interestingly enough they do get both women client's and also couples as clients. I asked my masseuse what was involved for the female clients and it is just rubbing of the female genitals, there is no fingering involved. I read one feedback on their website and it was from a female heterosexual client who received a massage from a female masseuse, she mentioned the experience with the masseuse was so good that she could not stop thinking about her and had turned bi-sexual because of the experience.
Now if it were legal in your country I'm sure there would not be as many requests for a 'happy ending' at your normal Massage Therapist when there are specific locations to have a happy ending from extremely attractive ladies who are good at it. The problem with society today is anything to do with pleasure and sex is bad. It is a natural need whether be from a Erotic massage or from your lover. We're naturally not meant to be like Catholic Nuns so why fight it? Sexual release can also be therapeutic. Many women actually cry when they have a orgasm because it is such an emotional release. I know a lot of you women out there can relate to this. If not then this may something that can really help you and I encourage you to look into it.
Please do not bag out Erotic massages until you try it. You might actually enjoy it if you tried it. It helps a lot of men, women and couples. Think about it this way, why do you think there is so much aggression in a male teenagers life growing up? With all those hormones and stresses building up what do you think would solve this? I remember when I first started having a sexual relationship I became a calm and peaceful man. No more aggression, no more issues just calmness. I'm sure men out there can relate to this.
Sorry for the long babbling but I need to get this off my chest. I hope someone gets something out of what I have written, feel free to comment.
I enjoyed the article. Just returned from vacation in Thailand. I got used to paying $9 for 1 hour full body oil massage (I had 5 of them in 15 days). Since the girls wanted a good tip, they all teased me by rubbing the inside of my thighs, purposely grazing my ass and balls. Eventually they all asked if I would like them to masturbate my c**k, which of course I did. None of them was good enough at it to make me orgasm, but I still gave them a good tip for trying. We both enjoyed a "happy ending." Same thing is standard practice in Costa Rica when I visited in March. Philippines, Korea, etc.
Frankly, it's culture shock to return home to the USA and have to deal with LMTs on their high horses. I have listened to their arguments and understand their reasons. They do NOT want to give their clients a happy ending and they do not want to be asked. BUT... many of their client WANT a happy ending and will continue to search for MTs who are willing.. I know I will.
Here's the thing with searching out massage therapists in the states that give happy endings...there is such a bigger picture here. No one has touched on the fact that many of the women in the prostitution field of massage, are NOT there by choice. They have been PUT there by people that "own' them. It is a sad sorrowful life, being held captive and never being able to see the sun. Legal or illegal, it is wrong for you to promote how you will seek out massages that continue the cycle of abuse because you can't get laid on your own. If you were mature, intelligent, fun-loving and kind, you would NEVER think of hurting another soul.
I wanted to thank you Bill, for revealing another side of this issue to me. I have written about it. I have used your quote from this response since it is now public domain and believe that once you have read the entire article you will see as well that you did in fact reveal a true issue, one you may have known nothing about.
This may seem like sarcasm considering the issue and my response to it. This is sincere gratitude from a Massage Therapist who wants to know everything she can about her profession and the things effecting it.
http://www.punkiespelts.com/2009/massage-therapy-and-happy-endings/
As an LMT, I can honestly say (by my own opinion...) that the lables of masseuse & masseuser are not as professional as say calling us, "Massage Therapist" or "Licensed Massage Therapist". I went to a Massage Therapy School not a Masseuse school.
Now that I have spoke my peace on that... The whole situation of Happy Endings -
It's a sexual act and it should be viewed the same as a Dr. performing a sexual act on a client, as WRONG!
I agree with MrsHardy23 on alot of her points. One of those points being Happy Endings = Prostitution. I am not a hooker or call girl... I am a Professional Therapist.
The arousal that the client feels is natural, but that does not make it okay to ask for a Happy Ending (for either male or female clients). Clients will experience any number of different emotions grief (which may lead to crying = emotional outlet), joy, arousal, panic... but to act on those feeling of a sexual nature is out of line. You wouldn't ask a Dr. to finish you of after a prostate exam or a pap smear. Plus he/she is bound by a code of ethics, just the same as we Therapists have our ethics code as well.
If you want to pay for a one "time thing" or "one night stand" look up your local prostitute or if you want the Parlor experiance role play with your partner at home. But please leave the Professional Therapy community out of it!
On that same note... the So called "Spas"/Parlors that provide such services have nothing more than Prostitutes with a "stead job" that know how to rub someone down (far from a LMT qualification).
I think this is horrible. I am a LMT in Colorado, and as a female starting out in this career NOT working in a salon, that's all that guys expect when they find out I do massages. I care about what I do and the healing benefits to it.. and it really does sound more like a personal issue when you need to "finish off" a massage, as erotic as they sometimes can be.. its unprofessional and disrespectful to those of us who take the healing benefits of it seriously..
Just speaking as someone who does enjoy the occasional Regular Massage (it's a freakin treat in my book!) I don't know how anyone could really go into an establishment and feel as if they could approach a man and just say "hey could ya finish me off" ??
Yeah, maybe I'm a little sexually frustrated right now and that's why I even read this artical and some of the responses but Seriosly - this really is for real!?
My cousin is a massage therapist and as snglmom3 points out: the healing benefits are what massage is all about - not getting off, I'm sorry - just my opinion...
I don't think there is anything wrong with a little bit of a sexual "adventure" ! Sometimes when you're single and don't want to go through the whole trouble of finding a guy dating and making it to that 2nd 3rd or 4th base, it's just easier to pay for a massage....and maybe even get a little more than you expected, and why not? One time thing, he's hott, you get pleasure and leave....some people may like to explore.
I'm not impressed with this article at all and some of the information is misleading and false. I am a licensed massage therapist in Las Vegas, NV. The article states prostitution is legal in Nevada. It is not legal statewide. It is only legal in some counties and Clark County where Las Vegas is located is not one of them. In other words prostitution is NOT LEGAL in Las Vegas and several other areas in the state.
A happy ending is prostitution. Nick name it what you will, sensual, erotic, happy ending, prostitution massage, frontal release etc. Happy endings are still prostituion and don't belong in the mix with massage. Many massage therapists, myself included, practice therapeutically throughout the country. Promoting happy ending prostitution as part of a regular massage regime is misleading and a slam to the profession.
It seems to me the author is promoting happy endings in a professional setting because those are the places cited in the article. Either that or she's just attempting to get a rise out of people. Most of the article is how to go about getting that happy ending in a professional setting. What people do with their own time and money is up to them. However, happy endings = prostitution.
And by the way, I work with a very reputable out call company servicing the Casino's through the consierges and VIP. Massage is safer that way. If the casinos new prostitution massage was being scheduled through their spa or an outcall servcie, we would ousted in two seconds and their employees would be fired.
Im female, young,healthy,single, and comfortable with my sexuality. But this is horrendous. There are places in vegas specifically for this behavior! I'm NOT saying its wrong by any means to finish yourself off if you have a stimulating massage, but i go to get a massage to relax. If i wanted sexual relaxation, i would do it myself. If i needed sexual contact with a man, I'll go out with one. I do NOT feel the need to pay for sex, and never will.
I'm not an LMT, but i can see how the community as a whole would be horrified by this. its just wrong to expect them to get you off. These are licensed professionals, who went to a lot of trouble only for you,skuch, to make he/she feel like a whore. Not cool. Maybe they aren't comfortable with this and feel that they dont want bad rumors being started by rejectees, or fear you complaining to their boss about their work.
The point is this is wrong in every way outside of a licensed Vegas whorehouse. Feel better about yourself for making some poor LMT a whore, go ahead.
Las Vegas is located in Clack County, Nevada where prostitution is ILLEGAL. It is not condoned or tolerated within professional or non-professional settings. We do not have whorehouses any more than any other metropolitan area in the United States and the law shuts them down as they become aware of them.
I don't know that I could personally request it....and i've had many massages before, normal ones...But more power to you women if you do!
I'm a nationally certified massage therapist and it's crap like this that infuriates me and sets my profession back a 100 years. Are you serious???? The point of massage is to experience therapeutic non sexual healthy touch. If you want a happy ending get a boyfriend. I really can't believe this was actually published in any forum. I'm insulted and disgusted. Beyond that I just don't know what to say except Thanks for perpetuating the idea that my profession consists of a bunch of glorified rub and tugs. You royally suck.
The best massage I ever had was last year. A male private masseur in Santa Barbara. He came to my motel room and gave me a ninety minute massage. He was no model and never touched my cunny but his massage was so amazing! I still get tingles below thinking about it. Yes I had an orgasm during the massage. After he left my room {with a generous tip) I had another by myself. Next time I am in Santa Barbara I will ask him for something more! Wish me luck ladies :)
I am going to school to be a licensed massage therapist and can tell you that there is NO WAY any of us would chance on losing our licenses by doing something like this. School costs almost $10,000 including equipment and books and classes. There is NO freaking way a legit LMT would consider this. I have heard the stories. There will usually be one misguided soul a week thinking that an LMT is the same thing as the proverbial back room sex parlor operator. If you are at a legitimate establishment, and there is a certificate on the wall, don't bother asking for anything other than to have your rhomboids or deltoids worked on...A full body relaxation massage is just that. Nothing more. It's completely beneficial to our health and mental well being to get regular massages and is NOT going to end in any other way than the client being more relaxed going out, than when he/she came in.
onewriter, I can tell you it happens and your relunctance to accept that this as part of reality is scary. Recently there was a national news report about high end happy endings. SEX is human and FUN! Prohibition is a proven to fail system. If you do not provide it great. But there are other licensed bodyworkers who do. The kitty is out of the bag.
Skuch, I agree with you very much so. Sex is human and fun and shouldn't be something to be ashamed of. This is a sensitive topic for the Licenced Massage Therapists out there and I can understand why.
For guys it is much easier as there are Erotic massage places in plenty but limited for girls. Although in Sydney, Australia where I go, girls can get happy endings from the female masseuses there too if you are ok with that.
Wow Skuch...you have it completely twisted....Yes sex is natural, fun and by all means necessary. But to say that these prostitutes should be allowed to call themselves Massage therapists is INSANE! I think I speak for every upstanding LMT(NCBTMB) that we did not go to school to receive our Associates degrees in bodywork to be roped into the same category as these opportunistic jerks. The point of massage therapy is not to get off...that defeats the entire purpose. (read previous post)
To quote you ,you said" If you do not provide it great. But there are other licensed bodyworkers who do." The key word is licensed and herein lies the problem. When we finish school and take the respective tests to become licensed ,there are laws that we are bound to adhere to. The number one law being that we do not use our clients or allow our clients to use us for sex. Mutually agreed or not it is against our laws and ethics codes to use our jobs in such a manner. Would this be an acceptable practice between doctor and patient? Probably not. Do you think that doctors should give in to the whim of every patient that has a desire for narcotics because that's what they want? NO. Whether or not you believe this to be a damaging practice or not is irrelevant...Bottom line is it is against our laws. It only serves to keep those of us who wish to be free of the stigma that what we do is sexual in nature bound to those false ideas. We are the ones who continue to be propositioned...Do you know how degrading that is? Would you like someone to come in to your job everyday and insinuate that they expect some sort of sex act from you? Think about that and get back to me.
Skuch, if it happens, and I'm sure it does, it is NOT by a legitimate LMT because they would lose their license. Massage therapy is proven as healthful and beneficial to combat many ailments and perpetuating the stigma equating it with a sex parlor is not only NOT helpful, it is downright disgusting. Massage therapy is NOT SEX. Get informed or stay off the record. There are plenty of people on here who are here to be informed. Don't perpetuate misinformation. Lyz, LMTs are asked all the time. We are told and the client is told that we can end the session at any time, if we or they are uncomfortable for any reason. We have draping to help disguise anything that might be "popping up" and we know it will happen. It is indeed intimate touch. But it isn't sexual. Too many people don't get enough of the right kind of touch and the body responds. Jostling, the rocking of the body, is especially good to stay away from on a young male lying prone. If one of us took a chance just to give some schmuck a thrill, we would literally be putting our career on the chopping block and playing russian roulette. If however, the LMT wanted to meet with them later OUTSIDE the realm of business, there is nothing saying no. But I can tell you, the risk AND stigmata of giving a "happy ending" is not worth it to most LEGIT LMTs.
I have to tell you with 100% certainty; this CAN and DOES happen in high-end, big name spas, even in the big franchise spas of NYC. My wife gets her happy endings. In the top spas, it may take a few sessions where rapport, body language, subtle movement, and comments, etc., open the door, but it DOES happen...
Your comments tell me that this conduct is against what you and I'm quite sure, many others are part of, and I can see that and 100% respect it. However, don't be so naieve to think for one minute that your colleagues don't indulge, and don't wander because from expereince, I assure you...it happens...it happens more than you think...and it happens at highly reputable establishments.
My wife will even tell me that she can tell if an MT is not into "playing" as she puts it, and it does happen. That occurs when she is a client of someone like you. However, she can also tell pretty quickly when she tinks they'll play...even if the play is delayed for a few sessions.
I think that if a woman is comfortable asking for it and a masseuse or masseur is comfortable providing the experience then it should be no problem. However, they are right about the prostitution laws. You certaintly don't want your masseuse to end up on the wrong side of the law and not even realise it!
I personally probably wouldn't be down with getting busy with my masseuse. That is only because I like to reserve my orgasms for my partner. If I'm by myself I even get bored. I find it much more stimulating to be with my partner and orgasm rather then alone or (in this case) with a stranger. For me, looking into his eyes while I climax is the best reward. I like to watch him watch me enjoying myself. With a masseuse I am paying for him to relax me, not get me all hot, bothered and worked up. LOL.
I am sure there are ladies who differ, and that's their perogative. I would just watch out for The Man (aka the cops).
I agree with you Parisienne. If a woman is comfortable asking for it, it should be left up to the Masseuse/eur to "help" or not. As the link above explains, there are many benefits to the "happy ending" and every woman should be allowed these benefits if she so desires - it's her health and her body! Good luck to all!
There are a lot of couples that enjoy 3rd parties or a little play...and even find it intimate!
As to relevance of the article, relationships aren't confined to emotional exchanges between two or more people. Sometimes the most important (and quite often most neglected) relationship is to one's self. Now, being a guy, sure I've thought about going to a massage parlor and getting the "happy ending", but its more in the fantasy realm then the "I gotta check this off my list of things to do before I die" realm. If these ladies really enjoy being able to obtain these services and are not obsessing over them or substituting them for the real thing, then more power to them.
I think this goes more towards the sexual emancipation of women. I've been with very few partners that felt empowered enough to be direct in wanting sex or what they actually want done to them. Once again, these are things that lead into healthy relationships, being able to not only define your wants and needs but to express them as well without qualms or reservations.
This is my ultimate pleasure to massage an stanger for a good and happy day. The way that I do it, is completely different and you would be a brand new woman again and will ask for more. As I massage the buttom, and open it wide, blow air with my mouth into the hot cruch and makes it feel cool. You can do that in reputations to make it hot and cold back and fort until it .......try me!
This was my wife's fantasy and trust me, it's very doable. She has done it many, many times at this point and it still exites her.
My suggestion is when you find an MT you like and think there is a connection, go back...be subtle...don't ask or say it...just be subtle; and seductive.
you only live once so ENJOY!
I have had a happy ending massage and it was fantastic and included multiples if you know what I mean. It occurred the 2nd time we met. I told him the first massage left me so aroused and he took it form there. So ladies don't be shy, remove the sheet and say yes when he asks if you are ok with buttocks and inner thighs being massaged. Who knows maybe that is code for happy endings. I had no idea about this, but now that i know you can bet every massage will include a happy ending or at least seeing about the possibility of one.
