For us it turns out, quite the opposite is true. Although sex can be just sex. It doesn't have to be, even when it comes to relationships outside of our marriage. Love begets love. It doesn't cancel out that which came before it because love, contrary to popular belief, is not a limited commodity.

So, setting rules is fine and it's possible to have an open relationship that does not allow for falling in love outside of the primary couple. And that might be just the right formula if Heartland and her husband are to have a successful open relationship.

But I would also advise her not to be so deadly scared of him loving someone else. That's what polyamory is all about and that's what next week's blog is all about too…