Doree Lewak does not think you should emulate Sex And The City.
Doree Lewak had an interesting piece in the Huffington Post. She basically states that intelligent women emulating characters from SATC are retarded (not in so many words). Her reasons are twofold; first, they're fictional characters that have become shorthand for certain female stereotypes. "Oh, you brought a random guy home from the bar last night, you're a Samantha. Tee hee." We agree that it is a little silly to identify with a fictional character but it's human nature. Associating with certain archetypes is something that we've done since the beginning of time, hence pantheons of gods known for an overwhelming characteristic.
Guys have had to deal with this hero problem, too. Our choices were much more limited, however. As kids, you could be Superman, Batman, or (God forbid) Robin. In college, you had to be Trent, Mikey, or the boy named Sue. These days, young men have to avoid too much time around each other lest they be labeled a Ted, a Marshall, or a Barney. We digress; the point is that some amount of familiarity derived from likening ourselves to fictional stand-ins. People don't actually think they're Carrie Bradshaw unless they have some sort of severe associative disorder. And they should see a therapist.
The second part of her criticism is a little more nuanced. Apparently, venerating these women is deplorable because of what they stand for. Their embrace of singledom, as women in their laaaaaaate 30s, is, evidently, not healthy or realistic. Doree goes on to explain that the idea of marriage being of minimal importance is a falsehood. And that the "Independent Woman" (Beyonce) attitude is harmful to long-term prospects for happiness. She could be somewhat right, it would be awesome if there were great, empowering pop culture role models for happy, healthy marriage. But where's the drama in that?
Maybe the SATC lessons are best for women already in relationships, particularly bad or abusive ones. We saw Candace Bushnell speak once (DON'T ASK) and it was amazing the number of women who credited her with empowering them to realize that "These Boots Are Made For Walkin" and leave bad or abusive relationships. Sure, these Midwestern divorcees were outside of the realm of Doree's criticism but beneficiaries nonetheless of the realization that being single isn't a death sentence. Would Jane Austen appreciate this?
We will now castrate ourselves for defending Sex And The City at any level.
We produced a great video of Doree explaining her new book, The Panic Years.