Men Run from SATC, Bad Marriages
New study: If she isn't perfect; I don't want her.
Last week I said that men run from Sex and the City. Turns out, they also run from the possibility of a bad marriage, according to Reuters. Australian Carl Weisman, a bachelor himself, wanted to get to the bottom of the growing number of permanently single men. So he asked them what exactly was going on.
Weisman concluded that this lifestyle choice was steeped in fear. Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than never marrying at all, he told Reuters.
It's funny. There are loads of books about and for women's anxiety over not finding "the one." And never marrying. Like it's a disease. (Don't catch it!) Here, we have men who would rather avoid a bad situation entirely. Sounds pretty logical, doesn't it?
In fact, Weisman culled all of this wisdom into the newly released So Why Have You Never Been Married? 10 Insights Into Why He Hasn't Wed. Might be worth a read.
Discussion
My wife and I read the book and she said that a lot of what the men state as reasons for not getting married, also applies to many single, never married women. While I agree with a lot what she said, I also begged to differ with her when I know first hand the living hell some of my closest buddies went through regarding child visitation after their wives divorced them.
For me a good marriage depends on how committed both spouses are to following the 'Golden Rule' towards one another. Choosing a spouse that keeps his/her promises and doesn't lie, is key.
This common knowledge actually took a study to find out? Facing the prospect of child support and alimony, i'm suprised men are getting married at all.