A 49-year old bachelor named Carl Weisman was very curious about the trend of men not getting married. So, he did a little investigating and rolled it into a book called So Why Have You Never Been Married? - Ten Insights into Why He Hasn't Wed. Weisman's theory is that most men aren't nervous about the commitment but more worried about it not working. He surmises that there is an entire generation of men that came of age amid divorce and don't want to make that mistake. According to the 2000 census, almost 3 times the number of men in their 40's have never been married as was the case in 1980 (17% in 2000, 6% in 1980).
In a review by Yahoo, Weisman says that the Bachelor For Life crowd falls into 3 categories: men that want to get married but need it to be perfect, men that have no intention of getting married, and guys that just have no idea. Of those surveyed, it was more likely that they did not want children or were undecided. Which makes sense, you don't want to be playing catch with your 12-year old son and have your hip break on you.
His advice to the women in these bachelor's lives? Be patient, George Clooney will come around to the idea of marriage one of these days. Weisman also derides society's bias against older, single men. Evidently, people think that a dude without an anchor is shifty and can't be trusted. Which is a bummer and reminds us of a classic line by Alec Baldwin in The Departed, "Marriage is an important part of getting ahead: lets people know you're not a homo; married guy seems more stable; people see the ring, they think at least somebody can stand the son of a bitch; ladies see the ring, they know immediately you must have some cash or your cock must work." Can it just be said that some of these bachelors are complicated men that are unlikely to take a wife and not dangerous drifters that may eat your children if you turn your back on them.
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